The fear of love (or falling in love) phobia is known as Philophobia. Finding true love isn’t easy, but the most difficult is letting go of your love. This fear of heartbreak sometimes makes a person take a step back from actually falling in love. Sometime’s these people do fall in love, but restrain themselves to admit it. Maybe the reason can be irrelevant, or maybe not, but this can be frightening to limit your feelings. But once you find your reasons and start acknowledging these fears, maybe you will be able to work on them and find the courage to fall in love.
Though it will be an exaggeration to think that our zodiac signs can change our fate, it is also true that our stars affect our love life and thoughts, and as a result, astrology may have some answers to why some people are afraid of falling in love, here we have tried to take into account the personality traits that are unique to the signs and from there, we tried to find possible reasons for fear in the spheres of attachment, romantic intimacy, and relationships.
Here we have boiled down the reasons of why you’re afraid of falling in love according to your zodiac signs
1. Aries (March 21st-April 19th)
They are really fiery in their passions. When they obsess over a particular person romantically, they do it ardently. Their greatest fear is their same passionate intensity backfiring; that is their passion not being reciprocated and in turn, appearing to be just an overbearing personality. They get attached with difficulty but when they do, it’s not impossible to shake them from their resolve. And hence, they never want to be the one to break the relationship up and that is the reason they fear falling in love.
They don’t want to choke you up, and no matter what it appears to be, they just want to protect you; from EVERYTHING. But their execution of this protection is oftentimes known to be problematic with frequent usage of the phrase “I am protecting you from me (by breaking up)”; hence proceed prepared.
2. Taurus (April 20th- May 21st)
Like bulls in a fighting pen, they are focused when they are in love. They are traditional at heart and believe in finding the right person. Thing is, They are very independent and career-oriented people, they like to move in a systematic way. And that’s why being relied on someone for their feelings terrifies them.
Their greatest fear would be of the effect their romantic other has on them chalked out perfect lives and goals. Once they let someone in, they stay in one way or the other. Their biggest fear is change, now falling in love is scary for them because they think love will change the way of their living, their habits, and also them. This is not something they are quite ready for.
3. Gemini (May 22nd-June 21st)
A Gemini is an airy sign. They spend their entire lives trying to figure out how to be around people and how to fit in. Their mind is constantly fluctuating. They are unpredictable and that is why falling in love scares them as they are always contemplating the other person would be a better fit for them or not.
Another greatest fear of Gemini’s is not knowing how to be around their partner and how to act appropriately. And more importantly, they are an undecided lot. If they fall for you, they will be confused, about everything because they will continue trying to figure out how to be around you and other people and while trying to sail in two boats, sticky situations will follow.
4. Cancer (June 22nd-July 22nd)
They are by far the most ideal sign romance-wise, tailor-made for long-term relationships. They are committed, thoughtful, imaginative, loyal, friendly; if you end up marrying a Cancer, the only fights you’ll have will be about what you want to have for dinner; and the most likely outcome would be them agreeing with you.
Sounds perfect? There is one tiny catch. They are insecure to a morbid level. And it is mostly about how if you are happy if they are treating you well enough. This has been known to lead to a number of fights. Also, they have high expectations from romances; which causes them to commit as much as they do. If and when you do not meet these expectations, there might be episodes. They are true believers in love but they fear that one might not be able to reciprocate their feelings.
5. Leo (23rd July- August 22nd)
They are a proud race who values their pride and extreme rationality above everything else. They think highly of themselves and naturally, their expectation from their partners are also quite high. They think their partner might not be good enough for them or might not be able to satisfy their emotional needs. That is why they are quite wary of falling in love. They know their worth, and won’t settle for less.
Their only fear: Love itself. They are aware of the rose-tinted glasses love brings as an added package and of its consequences. They know how their senses will be compromised and their pride shattered if something goes wrong and this thinking itself invariably causes them to shy away.
6. Virgo (August 23rd- September 22nd)
Their greatest strength is also their greatest shortcoming: the ability to see the best in the people around them. Their personalities have something Pre-Lapserian about them, innocent and unable to process the thorns in beds of roses. As a result, they will invariably be afraid to fall in love, out of fear of betrayal; something that has been a constant in the smallest or largest of ways all their lives. Virgos are perfectionists and they allow people to see only the perfect things, they think if they let someone in, they will become vulnerable and transparent which is definitely a no-no for Virgos.
Virgos want the best, sometimes they are certain that no one around them is worthy of love, not even themselves. Yes, they are critical that way. They fear they will be with someone who won’t be able to live up to their high expectation.