10 Parenting Habits That Harm Our Kids

Parenting Habits That Harm Our Kids

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Raising children isn’t easy. In fact, it’s a gut-wrenching, second-guessing, hair-pulling, “I need Advil and a whole bottle of wine” kind of job.

When our kids are growing up, and we are knee-deep in those parenting trenches, it gets rough and sticky. And while some of us are good at navigating through, not a single one of us is perfect. I would like to think we all have good intentions, but there are definitely some things we do and say that end up harming our kids, whether we realize it or not. When we are aware of certain parenting habits, we can change in order to help instead of harm their growth and maturity.

10 Parenting Habits That Harm Our Kids

Here are a few parenting habits that harm our kids.

1. We hush and shush them.

Sometimes we do it before we even know what they are trying to say. Obviously there are plenty of times when kids need to keep quiet, but being shushed all the time will make them feel unimportant. Keeping them quiet now may keep them quiet later when they actually need to speak up.

 

2. Or, we interject and answer for them.

When someone asks our children a question, some of us are too quick to talk over or answer for them. Sometimes this happens when they are speaking too slowly, or if they are simply taking a moment to think. When they don’t answer quickly enough or in detail, we feel compelled to give the answer or the information for them. We need to encourage our kids to speak for themselves.

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3. We micromanage their lives.

We fear too much down time, so we sign them up for every activity under the sun. And when they return from an activity, we want to hear every last detail. We play 20 questions until their eyes roll back into their heads, and it’s exhausting for everyone involved. And then we wonder why our kids are so quiet all the time.

 

4. We make sure they aren’t bored.

We want them to be excited, engaged and filled with motivation most of the time. And we provide lessons for everything – from musical instruments and theater to sports and dance. They are so busy that sometimes their truest interests don’t have a chance to blossom or take shape. Kids need to enjoy the things they are involved in enough to want to practice. Letting them ask for more before we give it is a great idea. And cutting down on activities isn’t such a bad thing because boredom is the mother of invention and free thinking.

 

5. We allow too much screen time.

TV, computers, iPads, Smart Phones, video games – we all love it, but all of it is just too much. Screens of every kind are a very convenient distraction. We use them as rewards and time fillers. We withhold them as punishments. Technology becomes, sometimes, a way for our children to hide from the world. It keeps them from dealing with reality and it provides instant gratification – two things quite detrimental to their development.

 

6. We give them too many options.

Choices, choices, choices. An easy example of this is dinner. Instead of simply making dinner and putting it on the table, we make offers. Take-out or homemade? Mexican or Italian or Thai or Sushi? It’s okay to ask them what they want from time to time, but we do it way too much. We do it because we want them to be happy and we want their happiness to be easy. But what an abundance of choice tends to do instead, is create a sense of entitlement. Wants become confused with their needs.

 

7. We resolve their conflicts.

We are troubled when our child feels discomfort, especially in social situations. When he or she is having an issue with a friend, for example, some of us become embroiled in their drama. Some of us find it necessary to become overly involved in order to orchestrate a solution. We can’t seem to back off and let them work it out because we hate seeing them upset. When our children feel sad and have to figure out how to talk things out with their friends, they are learning important life and relationship skills that will serve them well later.

 

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Kimberly Valzaniahttp://eatpraypost.com
Kimberly Valzania practices mindful gratefulness. She is creatively driven to write about and share her personal experience and opinion on weight loss, fitness, life changes, adventures in parenting, day-to-day triumphs (and failures), and the truth-seeking struggle of simply being human. As words tumble out, they are sorted into cohesive piles and delivered via poetry and short essays. She knows that life is indeed a journey, and that precious moments appear like magic when you surrender, hold hands, and fearlessly fling yourself into the great, wide, open. You can read more at her website, eatpraypost.com.
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