You will thrive and bloom in life, once you learn to accept a few harsh realities of life; you will be much stronger, smarter, and most importantly, full of wisdom.
You thought life is going to be easy. Didn’t you? As a child, all you wanted to do was to grow up and now you are a grown-up. Is this what you thought life would be like? Did you expect the harsh realities of life that are coming your way?
Life is tough but the thing is that it makes us tougher. We are given a set of problems to solve because the universe believes that we have the capacity to deal with them. It is not like the universe doesn’t care about you and that is why it is making your life tough or something.
Everyone’s life is hard, so just suck it up, buttercup!
Here Are 6 Harsh Realities of Life
1) Fix yourself.
Life hurts us. People hurt us. Circumstances hurt us. We lead a life where we are broken inside but we have to pretend to be all together on the outside.
The problem is that we keep waiting for someone to heal us. We keep thinking that someone will suddenly come in our lives and everything will be better and we will be healed.
As much as this thought is comforting to think about, the reality is that this isn’t true. You gotta heal yourself. You have to pick yourself up when you fall. You are all you have. Have faith in yourself because when it is wartime, you are alone.
2) Stop thinking about perfect.
We all have a notion of our life and that notion always makes us feel that we should have everything perfect and we should be perfect all the time.
This is life, not a Hollywood movie where everything has to look pretty and perfect. Life is not going to be perfect all the time. Yes, you can and you should aim at perfection. But, it is always difficult to be perfect and you need to accept this one of the harsh realities of life right away.
So, make peace with what you are and what you have. That’s mostly the first step towards moving toward perfection. Accept yourself and your surroundings and then aim for the perfect. Even if you don’t get the moon, honey, you will land up in stars and stars are just as beautiful.
3) You will always fail.
Yes. This is one of the harsh realities of the real world. Not like we want to sound like total naysayers, but the thing is that not all your endeavors are going to be a success all the time.
There will surely be times when you will fail and your life will seem to fall apart and you will face problems that you didn’t even know exist. But that’s the beauty of life.
Failure is present because it is supposed to teach us and make us stronger. Failure is pertinent for success, as much as this sounds like a paradox. So don’t be afraid to fail. Fail and try to look at things in a positive way. Ultimately, you will succeed.
4) Don’t think you can change the past.
You don’t have any control over the past. So don’t let it have any control over you. The past is gone and you cannot change it no matter how much you think about it. You may enjoy being the victim sometimes but it is not going to help you. It is only going to make you look weak and vulnerable.
To be stronger, you have to get over the past and not think of it all the time. Live in the present and live in the now while thinking about what you have to do in the future. The past is the lost territory.
5) There might be no tomorrow.
This is one of my favourite harsh realities of life. Your parents must have surely said it to you at some time in your life. Sometimes and for some people, there might be no tomorrow.
So don’t put off something that you can do today for tomorrow. Do the best you can do today. Also, when you put off things, it isn’t a good attitude to have. It just shows that you are lazy and you don’t prioritize work. Don’t be that person.
6) Don’t hide under “I am Busy”.
We all miss opportunities to have fun because we are busy. But what if this is what we like to tell other people? What if we aren’t actually busy and are just hiding under the garb of “being busy”?
Now the thing is that by doing so we miss the fun that we deserve. Yes, work is crucial in life but fun is important as well.
You need to enjoy and in order to do so you need to stop hiding behind the words, “I am Busy”. Another thing is that sometimes we are passionate about something but we think that we are too busy to pursue it. Don’t do this.
If you love something, go and do it irrespective of how busy you are. Take out time for yourself and you will see how happy it will make you.
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Frequently Asked Questions
1. What are some things that you would consider harsh realities to accept?
a. Failure b. You can’t rely on anyone c. You can’t control everything in life d. Expectations lead to disappointment e. No one can completely understand you and f. Betrayal in a relationship.
2. Have any of these realities been particularly hard for you to come to terms with?
Expectations. The pain of high expectations of others is very deep. Hoping for an outcome I desire, thinking about what others should or shouldn’t do, and then feeling overwhelmed when things don’t go as expected always undermined my relationships and happiness.
3. Why do you think people often have a hard time accepting reality?
People find it hard to accept reality because the truth is extremely uncomfortable, which is why most people live in denial. Also, people fear that accepting reality means accepting that their values or beliefs or their actions and decisions were wrong. Accepting mistakes makes one feel guilty, whereas self-pity and self-victimization offer comfort while drifting you away from reality.
4. Do you have any tips or advice for people who are struggling to accept some of the most difficult parts of life?
Please be open-minded and learn to see things in life from a broader perspective. Some more tips are – take responsibility, develop high self-awareness, practice self-love, seek constructive criticism, pray daily, meditate, and practice the law of attraction.
5. Did anything help you accept harsh realities of life?
Yes. Prayers! I pray for wisdom and the power to take the right actions because I believe in the law of cause and effect. The mantra that helps me most is “I am responsible for everything that happens to me and everything that I attract in my life”. Aside from that, I am practicing the law of attraction to manifest what I want. Prayers and meditation have helped me connect with my higher purpose in life.
6. What else can help you deal with the harshness of life?
Spirituality! Being spiritual helps one experience positive emotions and take charge of their relationships, happiness, health, and overall well-being.