10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Deep Woman

The deeper you are, the harder it becomes for you to find someone who wants to have a relationships with you. You can go out on a lot of dates but at some point the relationship fails to progress any further and that is mainly because of the intensity of your depth. Not every man is strong enough to handle a deep woman. Here’s why:

1. A deep woman asks deep questions. 

A deep woman will probe further into your life and ask questions that you may not be prepared to answer. Even on the first date, she will dig deeper and ask personal and philosophical questions – she will never enjoy a shallow conversation.

2. A deep woman is honest. 

Too honest – often blunt. A deep woman takes her integrity seriously and one thing she believes in is honesty. If you ask her anything, she will tell you the truth and she expects the same from you.

3. A deep woman knows what she wants. 

Or who she wants. A deep woman knows right away if she likes you and doesn’t need to date around or explore her other options to be sure of her feelings. Her heart only beats for a special few people and she knows them right away.

4. A deep woman wants a deep relationship. 

She wants long conversations about your life, she wants to hear stories about your past, she wants to understand your pain and she wants to add value to your life. She wants a real relationship that goes beyond going out and having fun.

5. A deep woman is not afraid of intimacy. 

She is not afraid of getting closer or risking getting hurt in the process. She doesn’t think it will entrap her freedom or make her vulnerable. Her depth and intimacy go hand in hand and she will always cherish the beauty of intimacy in relationships.

6. A deep woman sees through you. 

She can see who you really are and what makes you vulnerable. She is not the one to hold back from pointing out what she sees in you or how well she can read you. Even though it makes you uncomfortable, she wants you to know that she understands you and that you can be yourself around her.

7. A deep woman craves consistency. 

She gets turned off by inconsistency or flaky behavior. She desires a strong connection and a solid bond and she knows that consistency is the foundation of that bond. A deep woman will not participate in the dating games.

8. A deep woman is intense. 

She may be slightly intimidating because she brings intensity to everything she does. Her emotions are intense and so are her thoughts. She will never be indifferent about things that matter to her – not everyone is strong enough to handle her intensity.

9. A deep woman only knows how to love deeply. 

If you can’t love her deeply, she will walk away. She doesn’t know how to casually date someone she’s really into or be friends with someone she has feelings for. A deep woman knows when someone can’t meet her halfway and she will slowly detach herself from anyone who is not willing to give her the deep love she is looking for.

173 COMMENTS

  1. I liked the concept that you were trying to convey, but I think it could have been executed better. I think it should have been written with less of a target on genders by using general terms such as “individuals” or “they/their”, as it is commonly known that humans no matter what gender are multifaceted creatures. Different people like different people. The general tone of the article sounded like it was boasting the qualities of a CONFIDENT woman rather than giving insight into the world of a deep woman. I believe it’s true that people who crave deep, intimate bonds and indulge in introspection and philosophy have a harder time forming romantic relationships and the reasons given were fair; but it could have been expanded in a much more insightful, non-egocentric way.

    For example:
    “When She Gets Intimate, it’s in extremes: She is fearless when she is in love. She likes to cross all the lines and doesn’t care if she gets hurt in the process. She takes pride in being intimate, and she knows that it is not going to make her vulnerable. Men, often get scared when they come across someone who loves so fearlessly. For some reason, this becomes a hindrance in their successful relationship.”

    For this reason, a more insightful and easy-to-take-in way to elaborate would be to expand WHY ‘she’ does, like: “Intimacy is a big deal for deep individuals because they understand the rarity of genuine bonds that exist unfiltered and vulnerable thus their affection and love for the people they feel intimate with are amplified tenfold.” I would also like to comment on the degrading tones on men who “can’t handle” deep women. “Men often get scared when they come across someone who loves so fearlessly”. A more objective way to put this would be: “For some individuals, women who indulge in their relationships so intensely may not be their cup of tea.”

    • Dear Mary Trinh Ng,
      your are absolutely right. Targeting a particular gender is something wrong in the article. There is no need of a rocket science to understand that all men are not same. You can find even a deep man who suffers a lot to get a perfect partner.
      Most of the things covered in the article also go with my personality but for a matter of fact I am an introvert too. And of course these are the reasons that I am difficult to accept most of the girls as my life partner. I do prefer mental openness than physical. It do not get biased, I do not fear to take a stand and present my views. So, as per my experience, yes, anyone who is deep suffers a lot to find a perfect mate but also knows how to handle the imperfection in anyone of them.

  2. You make it sound as if men have a duty to women to make their relationships perfect. I’ve never heard of any perfect relationship between any two people, ever. Men have wised up to the fact that “strong women” only want to take from men, and have men cater to their every whim, and then when they’re bored, blame the man who has tried to make her life “perfect” for their own boredom. What follows is him being blindsided with spurious restraining orders, abuse claims, having his life destroyed and his wages garnished all because the woman he tried to make happy got bored.

    Women aren’t finding relationships easy to come by because they have made relationships a lifetime burden for men, and men aren’t interested in putting up with it.

  3. You make deep women sound like insufferably pompous bores. I shall continue to give them a wide berth. Joie de vivre, compassion, and faithfulness are what I hope to find in a woman. It takes all sorts I suppose. Good luck in you quest for happiness, or should that be self-actualisation.