7 Things You Can Do To Make Your Partner Realize Your Value

How To Make Your Partner Realize Your Value?

Are you struggling to find your worth in a relationship? Are you wishing to be more valued by your partner? 

If you want to make your partner realize your value in his/her life, you are at the right place.

When we want to gain certain things, we might have to get a little dirty with our (harmless) tricks. And there’s nothing to feel guilty about it. Just make sure you are not using it too often. 

These tricks will not only help you to make your partner realize your value but also refocus your attention towards your own self-worth.

Why in the first place are you getting devalued do you think?  

If you’re considering a serious relationship with a person who does not value you for who you are, you are better off him/her. He/she should see your worth without you having to apply manipulative techniques. 

In case you are married, and separation is not an alternative, you should consider using these tricks to help regain your partner’s respect and love. If things are not working even after this, you should ask yourself if he/she is worth your time and effort or not. You need to focus most of your attention on yourself in that case, to restore your self-value. 

Warning: Don’t overdo any of these. Some of these might backfire. 

Note: These tricks are not hardcore mind games, lies or manipulative techniques. These are not to hamper your partner’s worth but simply teach you to raise your value so that your partner automatically holds you at a higher worth. 

 

7 Things You can Do To Make Your Partner Realize Your Value:

1. Delay gratification

“Things will come slow and steady.”

We human beings are wired to value and appreciate things when we have to earn it. This is true in the case of men. Men love challenges and they love to sweat to win it. Something that comes easy does not appeal to people, more so to men.

Use this remarkable piece of information as gospel truth and guidance to hold your partner’s wandering attention. 

Are you always there for your partner whenever they need you? Also when they don’t? Curb that a little bit. 

You could do the following to stop showing up too often:

  • Stop making your partner feel special too often. (by using phrases like, “I cannot do without you.”, “You are my everything.” etc.)
  • Stop compromising your comfort and needs for your partner’s needs.
  • Stop putting your partner before yourself.
  • Decrease the number of compliments you give your partner.

The point here is for you to make your partner realise that your love,attention and time is not granted to him/her. They have to literally work hard to win you over, every single day, like it was in the beginning. 

Once they change their mindset to start respecting you for who you are, you can go back to being the person you were. Reinforce them with praises and compliments when they start seeing your worth.

 

2. Triangulation 

“Other people do see my worth.” 

Yet again, here is little or no room for skeptics. Triangulation works like magic but when used too much can turn abusive, especially if your partner is ‘attention sensitive”. 

Many researches show that we want what other people want; the dating world is no exception. All you have to do is make use of this finding. Your trick: Raise your worth in the eyes of other people of the opposite sex. Alongside, let your partner know you are enjoying the attention they are bestowing on you. 

Social comparison is a means by which we put value to ourselves. Now guess what? You have to apply this trick in a social situation, say at parties, gatherings or some event. Do not always stick to your partner, hold their hands and make them the center of your attention. This makes you look unavailable and boring for other people of the opposite sex. 

Talk and laugh with other people of your opposite sex (avoid cheap flirting). This raise alarm in your partner’s mind about his/her position, at that current moment. 

Remember, you are very much in a committed relationship, but your job is to make your partner realise that he/she is not the only one in your life. There are other people who see the spark in you and in fact are intrigued by you: they would love to do anything to have you in their lives.

Shreyasi Debnath
An editor and writer keeping keen interest in painting, creative writing and reading. I did my Masters in Clinical and Counselling Psychology and have been a counselling psychologist at a primary school for the past 1 year. I love doing absolutely anything that mends a mind and soothes a soul. Most often than not, I ponder over to come up with poems. A wandering soul in search for meaning.
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