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How To Truly Love Your Children By Loving yourself

Is it really possible to love your children without loving yourself?

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Are you attending to your children but abandoning yourself? Discover the importance of loving yourself while also lovingly attending to your children.

Think about this for a moment: Is it really possible to love your children without loving yourself, or to love yourself without loving your children?

The answer is a resounding NO!

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If you are abandoning yourself to take care of your children, this is not loving to your children or to yourself.

While being there for your children is very important, it is equally important to role-model for them what it means to love yourself by taking responsibility for your own feelings and wellbeing.

If you take care of your children but do not take care of your own feelings and needs, they will not learn how to take loving care of their feelings and needs. They will grow up either expecting someone else to take care of them, or they will care-take others while abandoning themselves – just as you do.

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On the other hand, if you are narcissistic and just attend to what you want, ignoring your children’s feelings and needs, you are not being loving to yourself or to your children.

Related: 6 Signs Of Controlling Parenting And The Effects It Has On The Child

 

You cannot possibly end up feeling worthy and valuable within yourself when you are self-centered and ignore your children’s needs.

If you are approving of your children but judgmental toward yourself, your children will likely learn to be judgmental toward themselves. You are their role model, and they will likely learn to do what you do.

If you treat them well but treat yourself badly, there is a good possibility that they will learn to treat themselves badly, no matter how loving you are with them.

If you want to be a loving parent with your children, it is essential that you also learn to be a loving parent with yourself. This does not mean that you ignore your children’s needs in favor of your own, or vise versa.

What it does mean is that you learn to create a balance between taking loving care of them and taking loving care of yourself. While this is not always possible, especially with infants, it is certainly a goal to aim for.

This may mean that they don’t always get what they want just when they want it – once they are old enough to play by themselves. It means that sometimes you love yourself and them by saying things to them like:

“I need some time alone for myself now and you need to play by yourself for a while.”

“We (you and your spouse) need some time alone together right now, so you need to find something to do.”

“I’m on the phone and this is important to me. What you want will have to wait.”

“Daddy and I (or Mommy and I) are talking about something that is important to us. Please don’t interrupt us right now.”

“I need to go to sleep early tonight because I have to get up early for an important appointment, so please do not make noise and wake me up.”

 

As a parent, you need to learn to respect your own feelings and needs as well as those of your children.

By consistently practicing Inner Bonding and learning to honor your feelings and needs, as well as theirs, they will learn to take responsibility for their own feelings and needs while also respecting and honoring others’ feelings and needs.

Related: 12 Tips To Self-Love And Compassion

Many people have been taught that taking care of their own feelings and needs is selfish – that they should just be there for others. This is a false definition of selfish. You are being selfish when you expect others to give themselves up for you. You are being self-responsible when you love yourself enough to lovingly take care of yourself while also caring about others.

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CO-CREATOR OF INNER BONDING Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages. Dr. Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967. Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world on the phone and on Skype. She is able to access her own and her client's spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Her current passion is working on and developing content for this Website, as well as distributing SelfQuest, the software program that teaches Inner Bonding and is donated to prisons and schools, as well as sold to the general public. Margaret Paul, PhD information Anxious, Depressed, Addicted, Empty, Relationship struggles, Inner Bonding - The Power To Heal Yourself! http://www.innerbonding.com
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