For many people who are unhappy in relationships but who can’t break up with their person, can’t do so because they believe that they can fix the other person and then they will live happily ever after.
Let me tell you unless you are happy with who your person is RIGHT NOW, then you are doomed to be unhappy if you don’t break up with them. People can’t be fixed. They can choose to make changes of their own accord but you won’t be able to fix them, no matter how hard you try.
4. Time invested.
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from clients – “I have put so much time into this person. I don’t want to walk away now.”
I can’t tell you how many times I have told them that that is no reason to stay.
Yes, you might have invested a lot of time in this person (I put 20 years into my now-defunct marriage) but don’t spend even one more minute with someone with who you aren’t happy. Cut bait right now and invest the next few minutes, hours, and days of your life on taking care of yourself and putting your energy out into the world to find the person of your dreams.
Furthermore, I do believe that any time we might spend with someone, no matter how it ends, isn’t a waste of time. You learn a lot, about yourself and about relationships, during your time with someone. The only reason that time would be wasted is if you walk away without taking what you have learned with you.
So, don’t let sunk time, time that you have already spent, make you stay in a relationship that you know should end.
5. You don’t like to give up.
Another thing I often hear from clients is that they don’t like to give up. That they want to continue to fight for a relationship. What I tell them, in response, is that one person can’t fight for a relationship. Unless both people are willing to fight, a broken relationship will not get fixed.
None of us like to give up and admit defeat, but if you are the only one fighting for this relationship, giving up is the best and wisest thing that you can do.
When we can’t let go of love for someone who treats us badly, even if we know we should, we are letting ourselves down.
Lots of time and effort is spent going back and forth on the pluses and minuses, recovering from crying jags, and feeling hopeless about the future. You are paralyzed because the lack of action is overwhelming.
Basically, your life is put on hold while you try to break up with someone you should break up with.
Knowing, and accepting, that there are reasons why you can’t break up with someone is the best way to be able to take the steps to do so.
Go through the checklist above. Consider those that apply to you. If you can work your way through them, you just might find that you have the strength to break up with someone, for both of your own goods.
You can do this! And, if you do, you will give yourself the chance to live happily ever after!
If you have made it this far you must really be struggling to let go of someone. Let me help you, NOW, before you waste any more time! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or click here, and let’s get started.
Written By Mitzi Bockmann Originally Appeared In Let Your Dreams Begin