It’s Okay Not To Be Okay When Life Gets Hard

Okay Not To Be Okay Life Gets Hard

When life is at its hardest, it helps to remember that less is more. A long hug, a cup of tea, a private moment to let yourself feel it all free of shame and judgment, a simple moment of pause.

Just showing up… for the ones, we love, for ourselves. Not demanding perfection, just presence, and acceptance. Allowing ourselves to hurt and not rushing or shoving the hurt away. Simply surrendering to it, bearing witness to it, and letting it break us down so that we can rebuild with an even stronger foundation.

One day at a time. One minute at a time. One healing thought at a time.

When life gets hard we don’t need to have all the answers, all the right words or all the solutions, we just need to honor all that each moment is asking of us.

Walk with Compassion

As I walked in the rain Tuesday morning with my dog, still waiting for his test results, I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

He was walking so much slower than normal, his tail tucked between his legs. My tears mixed with the rain as a deep sadness fell over me. My constant companion for over ten years who never leaves my side, my shadow. Did I do enough for him?

I worried I should have brought him for testing sooner. I worried that maybe life for him has been hard with two toddlers at home, despite how loving and gentle he is with them. I worried that whatever he is suffering from is all my fault.

But as he nuzzled against me, so sweetly as he always does, I was reminded that I need to be as compassionate with myself as I am with him.

I must love, not betray, myself through my pain.

Related: 6 Life Changing Steps To Practice Mindful Self Compassion

Your Struggles Are an Invitation

“What if pain — like love — is just a place brave people visit.” Glennon Doyle Melton

Author Glennon Doyle Melton describes the pain as an invitation in her book Love Warrior. She explains that we must run toward our pain, not away from it, to learn the lessons we’re meant to learn.

Her words ring so true to me as every good thing I have and strive for in life was once seeded in pain.

Each struggle, each loss, each tragedy, each horrific news story is an invitation.

An invitation to break down and rebuild stronger than we were before. An invitation to feel deeply and learn the lessons our souls long for. An invitation to use the marks those lessons leave on our hearts to help heal and empower those around us. An invitation to learn more and more about what it means to love.

We cannot avoid pain, it is all around us. And sometimes we will buckle under its pressure or get knocked over by something as light as a feather. But the more we sit with our pain and learn from it the stronger we will be.

So when life gets really hard, know that you’re not alone. We all feel it. We are all bearing witness to it.

And with enough compassion and patience, we can get through anything.

Article Syndicated from with permission from the author.

We are always made to understand that breaking down, or crying or feeling sad are signs of weakness, and the more you act stoney, the stronger you are. But, it’s actually the opposite. It is okay to not be okay and crying, feeling sad, and overwhelmed doesn’t make you weak; rather it’s a sign of strength. So be kind to yourself.

If you want to know more about why it’s okay to not be okay, then check this video out below:

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