Intrusive Thoughts: Where They Come From and Why

Intrusive Thoughts Come From Why

Have you ever had intrusive thoughts, that have threatened to interfere with your daily life, and makes you think that you are going crazy?

The origin of unwanted, intrusive thoughts may be underlying anxiety. Unconscious anxiety, the type that one is not aware of, frequently bubbles up to the surface and takes shape as a dark thought. These thoughts are often frightening and startling. A person may berate himself or herself and worry that having an intrusive thought means he or she is “crazy.” Yet, this is not the case, and admonishing oneself may cause additional anxiety. The unconscious anxiety is then compounded with conscious anxiety and the intrusive thoughts may increase.

For example, say a young woman, Anne, is driving to a friend’s lake house. She is enjoying the ride, singing, laughing, and chatting with her friends who are also in the car. Suddenly, as she is driving, Anne has an intrusive thought: “What if I drive off the road, and hit that big oak tree?” She shudders and shames herself for such a thought. She questions her sanity.

Yet, she has zero intention of acting on the thought. Despite this awareness, Anne continues to beat herself up for the thought and her anxiety intensifies. She withdraws and finds an excuse to return home without her friends. The intrusive thoughts escalate and Anne feels alone and desperate.

Alternatively, let’s say Anne reflects on the thought instead of berating herself. Examining the feelings that are possibly driving the thought, she realizes she is intensely conflicted about whether she is a good person. This worry has consumed her for a while, Anne decides it is a good time to initiate therapy.

In therapy, she explains both the intrusive thoughts and her intense worry that she is a “bad person.” Her therapist empathizes and assists her in unpacking these thoughts and feelings. When the therapist asks about her relationship with her parents, Anne states, “My parents were not great at handling feelings.” At the end of the session, the therapist asks Anne to be aware of any associations she may have to her childhood.

During the next session, Anne shares a childhood memory. She remembers a friend who showed her adult material when she was very young. The shock and shame she experienced were extreme. Worried about getting in trouble, she kept the incident to herself. Eventually, she shared the traumatizing experience with her mom, who scolded and punished Anne in place of helping Anne recover from the experience. Grounded for a week, Anne suffered intense distress. Unfortunately, the experience with her mother reinforced the idea that Anne should hide her feelings.

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Feelings are an essential component of being human, and nothing to be ashamed of. It’s behaviors that may get a person into hot water. Embracing a negative feeling in an attempt to gain a better understanding of oneself, may prevent a person from acting on the feeling inappropriately or unsafely. 

Accepting and examining the experience of negative emotions may illuminate unconscious conflict and decrease the chance of anxiety bubbling up to the surface in the form of an intrusive thought. Instead of ignoring or hiding emotions, identifying and understanding them may allow a person to quiet anxiety. 

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