In the last blog I discussed the best pick up lines for crush. This post is all about how to get over your crush. Are you wondering how to let go of love for your crush? Are you madly in love with someone and are the feelings are unrequited? There is nothing worse than loving and not being loved in return but holding on to love with no future will only prevent you from finding the love you seek.
So, how do you let go of your crush if they aren’t crushing on you? How can you take the difficult step of walking away from them and moving on?
I have been there, and so have many of my clients. Let us help you get through it.
Here Is How You Can Let Go Of Love For Your Crush If They Aren’t Crushing On You
1. Check yourself.
Are you crushing on someone, big time, and have you been convincing yourself that if you just hold on long enough, they will notice you and fall for you and you will live happily ever after? Have you been holding on to this for a while but has nothing changed?
I have a client who was seriously crushing on a guy. They had been friends years ago and he reappeared. She thought that him coming back into her life was a sign that they were supposed to be together.
For one year she held onto hope that they could be together. He did give her mixed messages, on one hand telling her that he didn’t want a relationship and, on the other, having sex with her. He would come and go and still she held onto her hope for them, slowly dying each time he left.
Ultimately, she realized that she had created their ‘great love story’ in her head and she knew she had to let him go. And the first thing that she had to do was to come to terms with the fact that he didn’t love her back.
It was incredibly painful but it was the first step to letting go of unrequited love and moving forward to find someone who would love her back.
2. No contact. None.
I know that we all think that we need “closure” when we need to walk away from someone, that final conversation where everyone gets to say what they want to say and you understand each other and walk away as friends.
I am here to tell you that closure is a myth. What closure really is is one last chance to spend time with and talk to that person you still love, hoping that they might change their mind.
Because really, if you could have a conversation and finally understand each other, why couldn’t you make it work as a couple? Right? Wrong!
So, when you have decided that you need to walk away and move in, go no contact immediately. Block them on your phone, disconnect on social media, stay away from places where you know they will be.
Why? Because what you need to do is break the addiction you have to this person, to change your habits. Having any contact with them will only hold you back from moving on!
Think about Oreo cookies. You know how hard it is to eat just one? It’s the same with your crush. Even one point of contact can draw you back into their circle, the circle that you have decided that you are determined to break yourself out of.
So, go no contact right away. It will make the process way easier!
3. Do something that you have always wanted to do.
Another important thing to know when you are wondering how to let go of love for your crush is to start doing something that you have always wanted to do. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for your empty space – do something with it.
A client of mine broke up with a man she loved desperately but who couldn’t commit to her. She was devastated.