How To Deal With Feelings Of Hatred Towards Someone


Deal With Feelings Of Hatred

Have you ever felt so much hatred for someone, that it made you feel absolutely crazy on the inside, even though you have tried to deal with it?

Hatred is typically defined as being an intense dislike of another person. You have a right to dislike someone, but to HATE someone usually means that there is something that is unresolved energetically and needs to be looked at.

Not to mention, hatred is a very destructive and toxic feeling to carry around with you, and it oftentimes can drive you mad. It can also lead to physical illness and contribute to spiritual and mental instability.

Life is too short to carry around hatred for another person when it can be resolved, so let’s take a look at some things you can do when you feel this intense feeling towards another person. 

Here Are 3 Things You Can Do To Deal With Your Hatred For Someone

1) Ask yourself, “Is this even true?”.

We get into a habit of taking our initial thoughts and emotions as absolute truth when the majority of the time they are just egoic impulses and reactions.  And even when they aren’t mere reactions and are actually grounded in some truth, we still tend to create unnecessary stories around a situation and believe them into existence.  Let me give you an example.

Let’s say a friend of yours goes behind your back and smears you on social media and sleeps with your ex.  A story that would initially arise in our minds maybe something like “That person betrayed me, and I hate them for that”.

Now notice what happens in your energy field when we take that story and replace it with “That person manifested a behavior that was aligned with their level of consciousness at the time, and they clearly lack the insight and wisdom to see that was inappropriate.”.

They are both true, but one comes from a place of unconsciousness and turns you into a victim, while the other comes from a place of higher understanding and gives you your power back.  Or maybe, they didn’t even betray you, they just felt extremely hurt by something you did and said to them without you even realizing it and they didn’t know how to express their pain properly.  We often fail to question if we had anything to do with their behavior.  Check inside yourself for false stories AND for how may have contributed energetically to the situation.

The next time you feel hate towards somebody, question the story you keep telling yourself in your head about the situation.  If you are at all like me, you will find that the story running through your mind about the person you hate is not only useless, it is almost always untrue.


2) Express it to them.

One of the worst pieces of advice we get upset or angry is to just “get over it”.  This typically only results in resentment towards the other person and just puts a blanket over uncommunicative thoughts and emotions.  As uncomfortable as it may be at times, and as resistant you may be to being open and honest with the other person, the best thing you can do is communicate it to them.  Say exactly what you mean,

Keeping anger towards another person inside yourself is like holding on to a flame and expecting the other person to get burnt.  You owe it to yourself out of self-love alone, to be honest, and open with someone as a way to release yourself from the burden of carrying around something that needs to be communicated.  And when you do communicate it, you will often find that the story you were telling yourself about them as untrue or incomplete.

You have a mouth and vocal cords for a reason.  Don’t be afraid to use them!

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3) Release.

If you have looked at your story from different perspectives, have considered how you may have played a role in their behavior, and if you express yourself to that other person from a place of sincerity, groundedness, and honesty, then your job is essentially done. If they still aren’t willing to listen, then you have to accept that they are simply not operating from a state of consciousness that is ready to be open and transparent.  Being frustrated and resentment that they aren’t hearing you out will only cause you more suffering.

Accept that they may not have the self-honesty or wisdom necessary to see things from your point of view, and move on knowing that you have done your part.  ”Releasing” yourself from something doesn’t just mean not thinking about it anymore.  To release does not mean to forget or suppress.  Sometimes, it requires deep meditation and ceremonial efforts to cleanse yourself and fully forgive the other person.

Hatred is just a natural emotion to experience as anything else.  But with all emotions and feelings that arise within our energy field, it’s important to get into the habit of reviewing them, expressing them, and releasing them.

If you catch yourself feeling hatred towards another person, allow yourself to fully feel it. Once you feel it, analyze it, express it, then release it, it’s no longer anger.  It becomes a lesson and an opportunity for higher understanding.

If you want to know more about how you can deal with your hatred for someone, then check this video out below:

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    Tittit Zubeldia

    Beautiful. Allowed me some introspection and learned from it.
    Always taught the kids to never used the word and I think succeeded. Recently however, I’ve been so given to its use not to a person I know personally but sone political figures. Somehow, this allowed me to step back and whoah, realize the futility of the emotion no matter all justifications.

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