Being a mentally and emotionally strong woman is not about how successful they are, it’s about how they can stand up for themselves. It’s about knowing what they want in life and working for it and that serves as a catalyst for them to move ahead and get the relationship that SHE wants and deserves.
Being an emotionally strong woman is the goal of every woman I know. And it should be.
We are all plagued with emotional issues from our past and present and, as a result, they can bring us down. They can make it impossible for us to be our true selves and get the life and the love that we want.
In my work with clients, educating them on why an emotionally strong woman gets what she wants every time is the best motivation for striving to be one!
Here are 5 reasons why an emotionally strong woman gets what she wants in a relationship every time!
1. She knows what she wants…
The number one defining trait of an emotionally strong woman is that she knows what she wants. An emotionally strong woman has taken the time to define what is important to her so that she can live the life she wants to live.
Instead of saying she wants ‘to be happy’ in her relationship, she is more specific. She wants quality time, she wants to feel loved, she wants to trust her person and she wants open communication.
Once she knows what she wants, she can go after it. She can ask her partner for quality time, she can help him understand what she needs to feel loved, she can speak up if she feels like he is being dishonest and she can encourage both of them to communicate effectively.
If you can take the time to figure out what you want, you will be one step closer to being the emotionally strong woman you want to be.
2. …and she is willing to ask for it.
I can’t tell you how many of my clients have some sense of what they want in a relationship but find that they are unwilling, or unable, to ask for it.
They say they want quality time but they pretend they are ok when their partner goes out AGAIN. They say they want to trust but don’t speak up when they are being deceived. Instead of encouraging conversation, they are passive-aggressive and close down when they are upset.
An essential part of being an emotionally strong woman means not only knowing what you want but also being able to reach out and take it.
Can you stand up for yourself in a relationship?
Can you tell your partner what you want/need and not settle for anything less?
If you can, you are being an emotionally strong woman, one who can find the love and happiness that she desires.
3. She values herself.
I have a client who is a psychiatrist. She has been professionally trained to help people process their thoughts and work through issues. She is very good at what she does.
Unfortunately, when she gets into a relationship she brings her training with her.
And what happens? She gives and she gives and she gives to her partner, helping them process their stuff. She wants to help them find health and happiness, just like she does her clients. And, in the process, she lets herself get sucked dry.