Embracing Your Inner Procrastinator

Embracing Inner Procrastinator

Do you think you are a procrastinator? Are you fed up of it? How can you embrace your inner procrastinator?

There’s something I find myself learning over and over again. Or maybe it’s more accurate – and more kind – to say that I’m continually deepening my understanding of it. It crops up repeatedly, especially when I feel I’m falling behind in whatever priorities I’ve set for myself.

To put it bluntly, it crops up when I find myself procrastinating.

Embracing Your Inner Procrastinator

The “it” I’m talking about is a tidbit of insight that has comforted me and enriched the quality of my life time and time again.

Here it is:

There is nothing wrong with procrastination.

This is tremendously good news, particularly if you’ve burdened yourself with the shameful label of “procrastinator” – which, in our fast-paced, action-oriented culture, is only slightly better than being labeled a liar. Or a loser. Or someone who doesn’t think that mobile devices are all they’re cracked up to be.

Believe me, I’m very familiar with the squirmy, uncomfortable feeling that arises when I keep putting off something I need – or even want – to do. And in contrast, I know how amazing it feels to be in the flow of productivity and accomplishment. So why, you might ask, do I think there’s nothing wrong with that sludgy, no-progress state we call procrastination?

It has to do with the word “wrong.” Let’s suspend the label of “procrastination” and describe the experience in a neutral way: it is a choice not to do something in this moment. Or perhaps, even more simply, it is a choice made among alternatives. Again – in this moment.

The reason it feels bad is that we’re judging our choice as wrong. And in doing so, we’re subtly judging ourselves as wrong, or ineffective, or lacking in some way. It’s the self-judgment that hurts. Let me pause here and offer another tidbit that has enriched the quality of my life time and again:

Read Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination

Self-judgment will never get you where you want to go. Ever.

See if you can feel how liberating it would be to drop the word “procrastination” – and all the judgment it implies – and simply allow yourself to make fresh choices, moment to moment, about what you’re willing and able to do. I’ve discovered that what we call procrastination is simply resistance – and resistance is a message from our inner guidance system that we’ve somehow strayed from our own genuine desires or natural rhythm, or both.

Consider the possibility that your resistance to doing something may be…

  • A natural aspect of your creative cycle, which requires periods of incubation, integration and rest.
  • A signal that what you think you “should” do isn’t really what you’re genuinely willing to do, or what would serve you best.
  • A reflection of a fear you may have about moving forward which, until it is acknowledged, cannot be challenged or released.
  • An invitation to pause and modify your plans based on new information.

In the absence of self-judgment, resistance is an opportunity to slow down and learn something about yourself.

I could share numerous examples of clients with whom I’ve worked, who berated themselves harshly for procrastinating about something only to discover that their resistance was simply trying to get their attention – their loving, curious attention. What we call procrastination is an invitation to greater self-awareness and deeper self-regard.

Read 7 Inner Archetypes That Cripple Your Confidence and Self-Respect

I remember a former student of mine who was immensely frustrated with herself for not making progress on her masters’ thesis. The topic for the thesis has actually been suggested by her boyfriend, who was a physician. My client had no genuine interest in the subject; what she really wanted to write was a novel. But she’d chipped away at the thesis, slowly and grudgingly, until her own resistance ground her to a halt.

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Suzanne Eder

Suzanne Eder is an award-winning writer, transformational teacher and personal mentor, helping people create lives they truly love through what she calls the Alchemy of Self Love. She has a unique talent for articulating teachings about how to create your own reality in a fresh way that helps people embrace and embody what they have only understood intellectually. Suzanne lives what she teaches and is, in the words of best-selling author Tama Kieves, “the real deal.” She was a featured speaker at the 2015 TEDxWilmington conference and her popular talk, The Dark Side of Self Improvement, is available on YouTube. Visit her at suzanneeder.com.View Author posts