5 Effects of Growing Up as an Unloved Child and How To Heal

Effects of Growing as Unloved Child

5) Lack of risk-taking abilities

The major difference between a child who is loved and who is unloved in childhood is that the one who gets consistent love is aware of his intrinsic value even with all the flaws and imperfections he might have.

As a result, he is not scared of failure because of his failure does not define his self-worth. He is very resilient and can overcome challenges easily. He wants to explore life and grab new opportunities and is high on risk-taking abilities.

But the one, who receives inconsistent love, grows to believe that he is not good enough and he tries hard to avoid failure at any cost because he thinks that the failure is a reflection of him being not good enough.

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He then becomes too scared to step out of his comfort zone and risk anything in which he might fail and has very little risk abilities in life and often becomes an underachiever in life.

However, we can’t go back and change the parenting style our parents adopted, by recognizing the basis of our healthy behavior; we can start to take positive steps to adopt healthy behaviors.

Here are a few practical tips that we can adopt to adopt healthy behaviors:

1. Re -Parent the Inner child

Your inner child looks for love and validation that it didn’t get.

It longs to be cared for by someone who has its genuine well being at heart and that’s you.

2. Seek Therapy

If you didn’t get love and affection as a child, you grow up feeling a constant void that you always seek to fill, with no time left to focus on your dreams, goals or life, because you’re preoccupied with thoughts of how incomplete you are.

It is essential to create a solid internal sense of self to fill this void; therapy helps you to do that. 

3. Self Discipline and healthy boundaries

Create healthy boundaries in work and relationships. Learn to discern when to put you first and when to extend yourself to others.

Schedule work and fun, my time and relationship time and avoid the tendency to operate in extremes.


Effects of Growing Up as an Unloved Child and How To Heal
5 Effects of Growing Up as an Unloved Child and How To Heal
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5 Effects of Growing Up as an Unloved Child and How To Heal

3 thoughts on “5 Effects of Growing Up as an Unloved Child and How To Heal”

  1. Whatever you can’t relive yourself from something you missed and if you have these issues no one else cares cause if they have a healthy family your problems dont mean a thing and like I said you can’t, anyway just what the heck ever dang.every human problem turns into a math quiz solvable by a physc.humbug.
    If people weren’t so selfish and shared love with others there wouldn’t be all these hurting hearts.

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