5 Dating Deal Breakers You Should Never Ignore

 / 

, ,
Dating Deal Breakers Never Ignore

There are certain dating deal breakers that you should never ignore, no matter what happens. Knowing and understanding these dating deal breakers can protect you from getting manipulated, and deceived.

Someday, there may be a vaccine against COVID-19. But there will never be a vaccine that will afford you immunity against bad relationships (I’ve spent years in the lab trying to concoct one).

Immunity from toxic relationships can only be achieved by recognizing common traps, and by identifying the Machiavellian tactics that toxic people employ.

If you’re currently in a toxic relationship, you are probably wondering, how did this happenI’m a smart, independent person. I should’ve known better. 

Oh, honey, you were deceived. Although it may have started under the pretense of heaven, it led you into deep, dark hell. But do not fret—

If your lover displays any of the following signs or does the following things: scram, boys, and girls. Ladies, if you catch a glimpse of any of these signs, ditch those stilettos and run far, far away. Pack your stuff and get out. Flee the scene. Disappear. Put your apartment on Air B&B and relocate to Costa Rica (or somewhere not listed on your public Pinterest board).

5 Dating Deal Breakers you CAN NOT Ignore

1. You’re perfect.  

Relationship Deal Breakers

One of the biggest red flags in dating is an idealization.  It’s not that they are lying: they truly believe you are perfect. They see no flaws in your physical appearance, character, your dreams, or aspirations.

You are everything they hoped their partner would be and more. You are a divine, special, unicorn of a person (impossibly cringeworthy, but “unicorn” best encapsulates the animating spirit behind it).  They do not perceive you as a human being—you are some angelic, never-killed-a-spider runway model.

That is until you’re not anymore. Over time, their rose-colored vision will fade, and they will start to be disillusioned with your humanness. They will begin to criticize everything. Nothing will be enough for them.

Related: Your Biggest Relationship Deal-Breaker Based On Your Zodiac Sign   

2. Woe is me.

Narcissists and sociopaths prey on empaths. And what quality distinguishes an empath from the crowd? A bottomless well of empathy for others.

If this person is bad news, they will likely reveal a complex, traumatic past that they have heroically overcome—all within the initial stages of dating. 

By gaining your sympathy and amazement, they gauge how naive and innocent you are for future exploitation.

3. My ex was crazy.

Nothing is quite as disturbing as someone who purports that all of their exes were crazy. No ripple in the relationship was due to a stone they had thrown; it was always due to some emotional upheaval in their unstable partner.

Rest assured: history is the best predictor of the future, and if they have a trail of drama behind them, a trail of the drama lies ahead of them.

4. I’ll show them. 

Oh, dear, sweet narcissist. Nobody cares like you think they do. But alas, they will strive to show everyone just how great they are, to strengthen the husk surrounding their empty and insecure core.

A narcissist is always under the illusion of the spotlight effect—they constantly perceive that all eyes are on them. They typically have carefully curated social media accounts and grandiose plans to garner more attention.

They live for validation and strive to prove themselves at every turn. Their fragile egos cannot handle the terror of perceived inadequacy.

Related: 5 Dating Deal Breakers You Should Never Ignore

5. It’s us against the world.

Deal Breaker on A Date

Run! Run run run run!

The narcissist is innately distrustful of others. They cannot feel that the world is a supportive, connected place. For them, life is oozing with cheats, liars, and competitors. But, they seem to forget the axiom of all axioms: our view of the world is an admission of our own character.

To the narcissist, telling you “it’s us against the world” is the ultimate compliment—who wouldn’t want to be in permanent cahoots with them, conspiring to conquer the world? They will try to draw a line in the sand between your relationship and the “rest of the world”.

But remember: there is a fine line between being half of a dynamic duo, and being the hostage of a narcissist.

Check out Saba May’s website, Metta Human for more such informative articles.


Written By Saba May
Originally Appeared In Metta Human

Frequently Asked Question (FAQs)

What is a deal breaker for guys?

No matter how much compatible a couple is or attracted they both are to each other, there are certain deal breakers a man absolutely cannot tolerate. One of the biggest deal breaker for a guy is, a woman complaining about everything.

What are deal breakers for a girl?

For a woman, small things matter than all the glittery big gifts. The absolute deal breakers for a girl are dishonesty and controlling behavior that makes her lose interest in him.

Is lying a deal breaker in a relationship?

For both men and women, lying is the biggest deal breaker in a relationship. This leads to a major distrust in relationships and destroys a bond.

Dating Deal Breakers Never Ignore pin
Red Flags In Dating
Dating Deal Breakers Never Ignore pin

— Share —

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply



Up Next

The Dreaded ‘What Are We’ Question: 7 Tips For Having ‘The Talk’ Successfully

"What Are We?" Best Tips To Have The Talk Successfully

The “what are we?” talk can be terrifying, even for the most experienced daters. But do not fret because armed with some strategic advice and a lot of bravery, you can make it through this conversation with your head held high.

If you have ever been stuck in a non-committal relationship much more than casual though not legitimately committed, you need to place the what are we question. It will allow you to find answers for yourself in the notoriously undefined modern dating gray area.

Below are some tips t



Up Next

Beware Of ‘Cushioning’! This Sneaky Dating Trend Could Be Sabotaging Your Relationship

Toxic Signs of The Cushioning Dating Term: Beware!

Relationships in today’s society can often be like walking through a minefield of colloquialisms and behaviors. One such term is the “cushioning dating”, it may sound harmless, but the implications it carries are anything but cozy.

Cushioning involves entertaining potential romantic partners outside of one’s committed relationship; it is rooted in fear, insecurity, and avoidance, frequently resulting in emotional infidelity.

What Is Cushioning Dating Trend?



Up Next

10 Signs You Are A Rebound And Nothing More

Signs You Are A Rebound And Nothing More

The dating world can sometimes feel like you are on a wild roller coaster ride of emotions, full of exhilarating highs and heart breaking lows. And you might find yourself unknowingly become someone’s rebound. But how do you gauge that? What are the signs you are a rebound, and nothing more?

Being someone’s rebound means being an emotional pit stop for them; it’s like they are taking a short break where they are seeking temporary solace before moving on for good. It’s not a good place to be in, honestly.

Today, we are talking to talk about all those glaring signs you are a rebound, so that it’s easier for you to decide if you want to remain one, or let go and wait for someone who gives you the love and respect you deserve.



Up Next

Is Your Partner ‘Hesidating’? 4 Signs They’re Unsure About You

Hesidating: Clear Signs Your Partner Is Unsure About You

Are you ready to explore the world of hesidating? It’s when commitment phobia meets modern romance. Dating can be like walking on a tightrope without a safety net. With so much uncertainty, it’s no wonder people hesitate to get into something they can’t control.

Hesidating is running rampant in the world of singles right now. It’s more dangerous than it sounds to date ambivalently; when you’re intentionally dating and match with someone who’s hesidating, you risk getting hurt because you’re not on the same page about what you ultimately want.

What Is Hesidating?



Up Next

What Is Wanderlove Dating Trend: 5 Reasons Your Summer Romance Needs It

Wanderlove Dating: Great Benefits Of This Trend

Love is not restrained by time or space in today’s world. This dating trend can be related to wanderlust, it is called wanderlove and it has taken over the world.

Bumble came up with this name which combines love with travel desire that attracts people who are adventurous and want to connect.

What Is Wander Love Really?

Wanderlove may just be what you’re looking for if you’ve ever wanted to explore different parts of the globe while finding your soulmate.

It centers around accepting long distance relationships where one partner could be on the other side of the countr



Up Next

Kittenfishing Alert! 4 Telltale Signs You’re Being Deceived in Dating

What Is Kittenfishing? Clear Signs You're Being Kittenfished

There is an online trend known as “kittenfishing” which is a lot like catfishing; not as extreme, but still slightly misleading. Are you (slightly) guilty of this?

What Is Kittenfishing?

Wondering what is kittenfishing? It’s a play on words that describes the act of misleading someone in online dating by pretending to be different than one really is.

Instead of pretending to be a completely different person, kittenfishers modify their profiles with little white lies. You know, like using that one photo from three years ago when you looked a tad more glamorous, or fibbing about your age by a ye



Up Next

Taylor Swift’s ‘Tortured Poets Department’ Is A Wake-Up Call For All Those In Situationships

Tortured Poets Department And Situationships: Lessons To Learn

Taylor Swift’s most recent album, “The Tortured Poets Department,” explores current relationships and sheds light on what many call “situationships.” With powerful words and haunting tunes, she describes the emotional roller coaster that happens when love is mixed with confusion.

Situationships And The Tortured Poets Department Taylor Swift

On her eleventh studio album – which was met with both excitement and trepidation – Swift talks about her person