There are certain dating deal breakers that you should never ignore, no matter what happens. Knowing and understanding these dating deal breakers can protect you from getting manipulated, and deceived.
Someday, there may be a vaccine against COVID-19. But there will never be a vaccine that will afford you immunity against bad relationships (I’ve spent years in the lab trying to concoct one).
Immunity from toxic relationships can only be achieved by recognizing common traps, and by identifying the Machiavellian tactics that toxic people employ.
If you’re currently in a toxic relationship, you are probably wondering, how did this happen? I’m a smart, independent person. I should’ve known better.
Oh, honey, you were deceived. Although it may have started under the pretense of heaven, it led you into deep, dark hell. But do not fret—
If your lover displays any of the following signs or does the following things: scram, boys, and girls. Ladies, if you catch a glimpse of any of these signs, ditch those stilettos and run far, far away. Pack your stuff and get out. Flee the scene. Disappear. Put your apartment on Air B&B and relocate to Costa Rica (or somewhere not listed on your public Pinterest board).
5 Dating Deal Breakers you CAN NOT Ignore
1. You’re perfect.
One of the biggest red flags in dating is an idealization. It’s not that they are lying: they truly believe you are perfect. They see no flaws in your physical appearance, character, your dreams, or aspirations.
You are everything they hoped their partner would be and more. You are a divine, special, unicorn of a person (impossibly cringeworthy, but “unicorn” best encapsulates the animating spirit behind it). They do not perceive you as a human being—you are some angelic, never-killed-a-spider runway model.
That is until you’re not anymore. Over time, their rose-colored vision will fade, and they will start to be disillusioned with your humanness. They will begin to criticize everything. Nothing will be enough for them.
2. Woe is me.
Narcissists and sociopaths prey on empaths. And what quality distinguishes an empath from the crowd? A bottomless well of empathy for others.
If this person is bad news, they will likely reveal a complex, traumatic past that they have heroically overcome—all within the initial stages of dating.
By gaining your sympathy and amazement, they gauge how naive and innocent you are for future exploitation.