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9 Signs You’re Dating a Man, Not a Boy

9 Signs You’re Dating a Man, Not a Boy

I was once a boy, now I’m a man. It took me twenty-nine years to get there, but I’ve arrived. It’s more than most men can say.

And that’s because age has nothing to do with being a man. Age is merely a number—actions define who he really is. But here’s the problem—most women spend their time trying to change boys into men.

Well that ends today. If you’re dating a boy right now, it’s up to you to be a woman and move on with your life.

9 Signs You’re Dating a Man, Not a Boy

1. Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations – men know how to communicate their needs
Even the best relationships have friction. You’re going to do or say something he doesn’t like—it’s inevitable. Boys are passive aggressive, whereas a real man will have a productive conversation with you…even if it’s a little awkward.

 

2. Boys only want to hook up – men invest their time and energy in the right woman
There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realizes that being in a relationship makes him significantly happier than chasing “tail” every night. If you’re only hearing from him at 1 a.m. on a Saturday night, he’s not ready to give up his toys. Move on and find yourself a grown man.

 

3. Boys will compliment you to get in your pants – men pay compliments because they want you to feel great about yourself
There’s a huge difference between delivering a compliment to get something and delivering a compliment to give something. Real men are givers because they know a real woman will reciprocate.

 

4. Boys live day by day – men work hard to build a future for themselves and their woman
When you’re only focused on making yourself happy, you can party every night and be lazy every day. Once you realize that other people are relying on you, you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to support your family.

 

5. Boys are intimidated by smart women – men are stimulated by them
If he’s insecure about his own intellect, he won’t risk it with a smart girl. The boy will stay in his comfort zone, whereas a real man wants the challenge of a smart woman.

 

6. Boys make promises they can’t keep – men say it and mean it
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was telling a woman I loved her when I didn’t mean it. I was a scared little boy trying to make a girl happy. A real man will tell a woman how he feels when he feels it. And if it’s not there, he won’t make it up.

 

7. Boys avoid any chance of rejection – men face their fears and go for it
Here’s the thing, both men and boys hate getting rejected—no matter who you are, rejection sucks.  The only difference is that a real man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it.

 

8. Boys don’t set priorities – a man realizes what’s most important and makes you a priority
A real man wants to spend his time with the people he cares about. And if he’s dating you, he cares about you. He will want to be with you and only you.

 

9. Boys put you down – men encourage and support you
Scared little boys will try to drag a woman down with them as a defense mechanism. A real man understands that he will grow as a man if his woman is growing as a woman.

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Written by Adam LoDolce

Adam LoDolce is the founder of Sexy Confidence. He is one of the top dating confidence experts in the world.After touring the world and speaking at over one hundred of the country’s top universities (Notre Dame, University of Alabama, University of Texas, etc.), he’s refocused his efforts to address a burning need: helping women build the right type of confidence to be successful with men. He’s been coaching, writing, and speaking on dating dynamics for over four years now.You will find that his coaching style is extremely untraditional and yet, immensely effective. He has helped dozens of self-proclaimed “helpless” women find love within weeks (not months) and has also coached some of the most powerful and successful women on this planet (foreign and national government officials, fashion experts, corporate executives, etc.). He’s an author and film producer, but quite honestly, he’s just a regular dude who’s truly found his passion.He enjoys riding his Harley-Davidson every day that the sun shines, dedicates his time to Crossfit, yoga, golf, traveling and is very close with his parents (Ann and Michael) and his brother (and best friend), Marc.

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  1. What a complete load of bollocks. Human beings are complex creatures. This is simplistic and frankly insulting to women. We’re not bloody stupid you know. People come with all types of baggage shaping their adult behaviour.

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