A relationship blooms when you share both friendship and emotional closeness. So, date a person who is your friend first and lover the second.
The foundation to every good relationship is one based on the fact the two of you are friends as well as someone you might fall in love with later.
When you start dating someone they become your best friend. The number one person you confide in. The person you spend the most time with.
Your number one support system. And the person you trust most in this world. Those things have nothing to do with sex and the physical aspects that come with a relationship.
You don’t just start building a life with someone because they are attractive and good in bed, those are bonuses.
Yeah, physical attraction and desire need to be there, first and foremost but people don’t stay together just for that reason alone.
You stay together because of who you are. You stay together because of how you complement each other. You stay together because you’re better together than you are alone.
Find someone who is going to make you a better person.
And I don’t just mean happier. Someone who is going to influence you to become the best version of yourself.
Someone who is going to support you and your ideas and your goals and ambitions when no one else does. Someone who is going to believe in you and your ability like they believe in themselves.
Find someone who is going to make the best teammate.
The best cheerleader. The person who turns ideas into reality because together nothing stops you. Find someone who wants to learn from you. Who values your opinion. Someone who listens even when you’re speaking in a whisper.
Find someone who understands your silence.
Someone who understands the words you use and what you actually mean sometimes when you say them.
Find someone who watches you so closely they can tell when something is wrong. Even if it’s just through a text message or a simple weird nervous habit.
Find someone you don’t get tired of.
Someone you could spend days with and you’d still miss them the second you part ways.
Find someone who influences you and you notice it in little parts, from the things you newly like and want to learn about, to the phrases you say.
There are moments you’ll catch yourself picking up on little phrases or how you say certain words and evident their influence is there.
Find someone who forgives you for your mistakes.
When you mess up and they are angry and you aren’t just mad at yourself for making a mistake, you hate yourself for hurting or disappointing them.
And when you think they are going to walk away and maybe they have every reason to, they turn around and bring you in and tell you it’s okay. They still love you. From there they help you to learn from your mistakes.
Find someone who doesn’t give up on you.
Even when you give up on yourself, even when you push everyone else away.
Even when you aren’t a version of yourself you’re proud of, find the person who stays. The person who says I don’t care what you say or do I’m not going anywhere.
Find the person who makes you believe in people again.
Because maybe you were a loner, maybe you feared to let anyone close, so you push them away.
But when you find someone who breaks through every part of who you are, when all you tried to do was guard yourself and your heart, don’t let those people go.
The ones who understand how scary it is to be vulnerable but they lead by example showing you, they are the ones you could trust.