“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
For a relationship to work, you need to know your partner to the core. You need to spend time together and know each other, your fears, your insecurities, your aspirations, your skills and everything this way and acceptance will be there and you will be more open to each other, you will become the best of friends. In order to make your relationship work and be fruitful, you both need to be good friend friends first.
Most relationships and marriages these days fail because people seek to gain from each and everything. Your partner is called your other half for reason, treat them equal, respect them and let them feel the way you want to feel. Once you’re friends, you’re bound by an emotional and spiritual bond and then even through the hard times you will walk, hand in hand.
So if you wonder if your relationship can endure all the hardships, ask yourself if your partner is also your best friend.
Signs your partner is also your best friend:
1) You bring them along to hang out with your friends
Your partner is your best friends so you don’t feel uncomfortable having them around while hanging out with your friends. Despite the romantic relationship you have you can be in your friend circle and share some good times without the slightest hint of jealousy or possessiveness. In fact, you have more fun having them around so you let them join you sometime in your circle of friends
2) You can argue with them and yet be together.
Arguments are inevitable in a relationship but know this, you can argue with your best friend and yet not let the differences tear you apart. There might come times when everything seems to fall but you will hold on to each other and let the storm pass, that’s what best friends do. Your partner will look forward to reaching a solution rather than abandoning the relationship.
3) You can talk to them for hours
The thing about best friends is you know each other to the core so when you talk you don’t force things they just flow. You feel connected and indeed you’re connected on a spiritual level and you feel like you can go on and on and not run out of things to say. Your partner is the best in the world and there is no getting tired, you can talk at night for the whole night and only stop the conversation by the need to sleep. As you’re connected at soul level you can relate to most of the things they say.
4) You know they have your back
No matter what the situation is, you can count on them to have your back. Every time you fall they will be there to pick you up and your brushed spirit. Your partner will be there by your side no matter how bad the times are and how broken you are, they will be right beside you trying everything in their power to bring you back to your real happy self. They don’t leave you when you fall, they will fight the world for you and even take a bullet for you. Even when you lie there broken, they will come by your side, pick your pieces and help it put together and start fresh. Through every up and down, they are there with you and for you.
5) You can be your real self around them
Your partner should make you feel comfortable in your own skin. You don’t need to pretend to be someone you’re not in front of your best friend. You can just sit back and relax. You can be the real crazy you and have fun because you know you won’t be judged. They love you and care for you so they want to see you happy and having some good times. If you can be in your skin carefree and have fun around your partner then your partner is also your best friend.
6) They make you feel lively
Life can get hard at times, it can steal away your joys and hit you until you kiss the ground. However, your partner picks you up wipes the dust off you. They know how to cheer you up and make you laugh even when you don’t want to smile. Amid the struggles and miseries, your partner shows you a hope, a life, the bright light at the end of the tunnel? You matter to them and seeing you sad hurts them but they don’t sit they’re sad they want you to be happy and they would cross an ocean for that. When sadness engulfs you your partner breathes the joy in you.
You can do nothing and still be absolutely comfortable.
You don’t need to pour in that extra effort to impress your partner, your presence will do the trick. You don’t need to rely on anything to entertain your partner, you can just be together in your skin and still be comfortable. Just the company of each other keeps you content.
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