Sometimes we tend to forget what to do in order to continue being yourself in a relationship. We become so consumed with the idea of being in love that we forget how to be our unique selves. “You cannot truly love another person until you learn how to love yourself”.
Remember how we told ourselves how we wouldn’t change before going into relationships. Candlelit dinners, watching movies, dancing to music, and celebrating love is such an amazing experience. But more often than not we forget to continue being our unique selves. You don’t realize it until you look yourself in the mirror and think to yourself “is this really me?” It’s definitely an important question to ask how you can be yourself even while you’re in a relationship.
Growing in love doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to lose yourself in your relationship. It’s essential to give importance to the things you like doing and keep working on what is important to you.
Being you is important, whether you are in a new relationship or if you’ve spent years with that special someone. Sometimes we also find it hard to be our true self when we are in a new relationship. But the best way to start a relationship is, to be honest. If it means that it will not work out then it’s probably for the best.
If you are looking for a sign and you want to finally be ready to continue being yourself even while you are with someone then here it is. Here are some tips to be you and to enjoy being you.
1. Take your time and space to be yourself in a relationship
Ever considered taking some time for yourself just to sit back and relax and not be on the phone all day with your partner. Isn’t it a wonderful feeling just to watch Netflix and have some time for yourself? Spending all your time with your partner is definitely not healthy. It is essential for both of you to have some personal space. Make use of this time to try out new things or reconnect with your old self. You may miss your partner but spending time with yourself can actually help to keep the spark alive.
Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically require you to follow someone else rules of how it should be. You and your partner can define how your relationship should be like. In order to have a healthy relationship with your partner, it is important to continue spending time with yourself. No one else’s opinion should matter when it comes to your relationship with your significant other. So keep taking your time and space as much as you need until you are you again.
2. Go on a date with yourself
Sure it feels wonderful to go out with your partner but learning to enjoy spending time with yourself is equally important. Learning how to be alone and enjoying it, is an essential part of life because the relationship you have with yourself is what is going to define every other relationship you have.
3. Focus on your hobbies
Do you like singing or reading? Maybe it’s time for you to start focusing on the things you love. It’s important to understand that a person cannot be your entire world. That’s just putting too much pressure on one person. Instead of expecting everything from just one person, how about diversifying it into several different ways. So if you are bored, instead of expecting your girlfriend or boyfriend to save the day, how about you try and save the day yourself. You can do that by doing the things you love. Read a book, take a walk, or do whatever you think can make you feel good. Take charge of your life instead of depending on your partner.
This is how you take control of your life and relationships in a healthy and meaningful way. Doing things on your own doesn’t mean that you don’t love your partner but it simply means that you are balancing the relationship between you and yourself.
4. Set boundaries in order to be yourself in a relationship
While it’s important to make compromises sometimes, you can’t just keep doing it all the time. For example, it’s okay to have access to your partner’s phone, but it is just not right to go through his or her social media profile, read messages, and send messages. That’s an invasion of privacy and it should be off-limits. It’s important to talk to your partner about what’s acceptable and what’s not. Having a clear set of boundaries will enable you both to have a long and fulfilling relationship.