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9 Ways To Develop More Conscientious Interactions At Workplace

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Are you struggling with relationships at work? Thinking about how to boost your reputation at work? This post presents ways to better your interpersonal skills and build more conscientious interactions at work.

1. If you struggle with relationships at work, it can help to define the value you add to each workplace interaction.
2. Speaking up at work builds trust and can boost your reputation, rather than damage it.
3. Extending vulnerability at work, without undermining your credibility, means taking your commitments seriously.

Often in my seminars, I use the example of a small software company I’ve worked with, which gained some notoriety in the late 1990s for its “no-jerks” policy. Meant to capture some of the intangibles of interpersonal relationships, the policy prohibited employees from “acting like a jerk.”

What usually ensues in my seminars is a lively discussion about what it means to act like a jerk at work. Most seminar participants agree that it’s pretty easy to know when somebody else is acting like a jerk—we know it when we see it. The real challenge is figuring out when you are the one acting like a jerk.

How do you know? You know you are acting like a jerk at work if you:

  • Approach relationships from the vantage point of what you want or need from others, rather than what you have to offer the other person.
  • Blame others and make excuses when things go wrong, rather than focus on the role you played in creating the problem and on what you can do to contribute to the solution.
  • Take yourself seriously, but don’t always take your obligations seriously.
  • Tease and make fun of others or call them names.
  • Interrupt when others are speaking or don’t pay close attention when others are speaking.
  • Make negative personal observations about individuals.
  • Hold strong opinions about the work product of another individual, but never articulate your thoughts in a constructive manner.
  • Focus on the negative aspects of situations without volunteering to help make things better.
  • Denying, stealing, or begrudging credit for the success of others.
  • Lose your temper, raise your voice, even if you are only “talking to yourself.”

If you find yourself doing any of these things, well, now you know: You might be acting like a jerk at work. If you act like a jerk at work, it’s going to hold you back.

So, if that’s you, knock it off.

People with good interpersonal skills, who are conscientious in their interactions with others, are much more successful. How do you develop more conscientious interactions at work? There are nine ways.

1. Approach Every Relationship By Staying Focused On What You Have To Offer The Other Person

First, define the value you want to add—now or within a reasonable period of time—in this relationship. Until you define the value you are willing and able to add in any situation, it will be impossible to sell that value to anyone else.

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2. Be A Model Of Trust

Take personal responsibility for everything you say and do, hold yourself accountable, and never make excuses when you make a mistake. If you do make a mistake, simply apologize and make every effort to fix it.

3. Remove Your Ego

Ego Says, “Once Everything Falls Into Place, I’ll Feel Peace.”
9 Ways To Develop More Conscientious Interactions At Workplace

Don’t take yourself too seriously, but always take your commitments and responsibilities seriously. Extend personal vulnerability, but never undermine your own credibility.

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4. Listen Carefully

One Of The Nicest Things You Can Do For Someone Is Listen
9 Ways To Develop More Conscientious Interactions At Workplace

Never interrupt or let your mind wander when others are speaking. Stay focused on what the other person is saying. When it’s your turn, ask open-ended questions first and respond directly only after you are confident you understand what the other person saying or his or her point of view.

5. Empathize

9 Ways To Develop More Conscientious Interactions At Workplace
9 Ways To Develop More Conscientious Interactions At Workplace

Always try to imagine yourself in the other person’s position. Ask yourself what thoughts and feelings you might have if you were in their place. Then behave in a way and say the kinds of things that you would appreciate hearing under the same circumstances.

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Bruce Tulgan

Bruce Tulgan, JD, is the author of It’s Okay to Be the Boss and the CEO of RainmakerThinking, a management research, consulting and training firm he founded in 1993. All of his work is based on 27 years of intensive workplace interviews and has been featured in thousands of news stories around the world. His new book is The Art of Being Indispensable at Work (Harvard Business Review Press.)View Author posts