A lot of factors go into success and happiness. Some will say luck, hard work, relationships, talents, and more. However, I submit that the single biggest component is CONFIDENCE!
As an introvert, I used to think confidence was elusive and reserved for the extroverted. However, as we learn about our own introversion and embrace our true selves, we have every bit as much claim to a healthy dose of self-confidence.
For most of us, low self-esteem started early in life and often was closely attached to our own misunderstanding of introversion as a curse, along with the lack of family and school support for our own personal journey.
As adults, we finally began to explore our introversion. We realized no one “overcomes” or “gets rid of” introversion and that it can actually be a blessing. Our journey has begun to discover that we can be proud, strong, and confident. We can have our dreams.
This evolution can take a lot of effort and patience.
12 Steps To Bolster Your Self-Confidence
…and accelerate to your own place of happiness, comfort, and success.
1. Find Your Passion.
Remember when you were a kid and your parents shuffled you off to gymnastics, scouts, t-ball, basketball, dance, music, on and on? They were trying to help you find something you really loved because they knew that when we truly have a passion for something, we do it most energetically, we become good at it, proud, confident! As adults, we should keep enjoying our passions and also search for more hobbies we love.
2. Stretch Kindly.
When you find new adventures, this can be exciting and scary, whether it’s presentations at work, new hobbies at home, or new adventures outdoors.
Rather than set ourselves up for failure by jumping immediately into the deep end, break it down into small steps. Incremental stretching may lead to significant accomplishments. And remember it’s the journey, not the destination. It doesn’t matter how far you go. Take pride in the fact you are trying something new and scary. Be self-compassionate as you stretch.
3. Learn About You.
Rather than admire others, learn about your own strengths. Many introverts are kind, curious, creative, team players, resilient, and great planners. These are traits that make great friends, partners, and business leaders. Be proud of your strengths. Practice them and share them with the world!
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4. Manage Your Energy.
Introverts tend to gain energy by using our strengths and enjoying our hobbies. Our energy drains in uncomfortable social situations, debates, or if we are put on the spot. As our energy drains, our confidence drains as well.
So be aware of what drains and energizes you. Monitor your energy level during the day and take breaks to avoid an energy crash.
5. Focus On The Now.
Introverts can dwell on the past, ruminate over our shortcomings, or fear stressful situations that loom in the future. Limit those energy-drainers and keep your mind in the present. This will help you focus on using your strengths, manage your energy, and accomplish your tasks.
6. Maintain A Task List.
Even a simple list will help declutter your mind by getting ideas or deadlines out of your head and onto paper. Thus you can focus more on the now. You can also review your task list throughout the day and at the end regale in your accomplishments rather than fixate on tasks of tomorrow.