15 Common Body Language Mistakes That Successful People Avoid

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Are you failing to make a good impression and grow your influence by committing the most common body language mistakes? Successful people avoid them at all costs.

Your body language makes a bigger impression than your words. Dr. Travis Bradberry identifies 15 poses, gestures, and behaviors that successful people avoid.

Our bodies have a language of their own, and their words arenโ€™t always kind. Your body language has likely become an integral part of who you are, to the point where you might not even think about it.

If thatโ€™s the case, itโ€™s time to start, because you could be sabotaging your career.

TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact). These people know the power that unspoken signals have in communication and they monitor their own body language accordingly.

15 Common Body Language Mistakes

What follows are the 15 most common body language blunders that people make, and emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid.

1. Slouching is a sign of disrespect.

It communicates that youโ€™re bored and have no desire to be where you are. You would never tell your boss, โ€œI donโ€™t understand why I have to listen to you,โ€ but if you slouch, you donโ€™t have toโ€”your body says it for you, loud and clear.

The brain is hardwired to equate power with the amount of space people take up. Standing up straight with your shoulders back is a power position. It maximizes the amount of space you fill. Slouching, on the other hand, is the result of collapsing your formโ€”it takes up less space and projects less power.

Maintaining good posture commands respect and promotes engagement from both ends of the conversation.

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2. Exaggerated gestures can imply that youโ€™re stretching the truth.

Aim for small, controlled gestures to indicate leadership and confidence, and open gesturesโ€”like spreading your arms apart or showing the palms of your handsโ€”to communicate that you have nothing to hide.

3. Watching the clock while talking to someone.

Itโ€™s a clear sign of disrespect, impatience, and inflated ego. It sends the message that you have better things to do than talk to the person youโ€™re with, and that youโ€™re anxious to leave them.

4. Turning yourself away from others, or not leaning into your conversation.

It portrays that you are unengaged, uninterested, uncomfortable, and perhaps even distrustful of the person speaking.

Try leaning in towards the person who is speaking and tilt your head slightly as you listen to them speak. This shows the person speaking that they have your complete focus and attention.

5. Crossed armsโ€”and crossed legs, to some degreeโ€”are physical barriers.

They suggest youโ€™re not open to what the other person is saying. Even if youโ€™re smiling or engaged in a pleasant conversation, the other person may get a nagging sense that youโ€™re shutting him or her out.

Even if folding your arms feels comfortable, resist the urge to do so if you want people to see you as open-minded and interested in what they have to say.

6. Inconsistency between your words and your facial expression.

This causes people to sense that something isnโ€™t right and they begin to suspect that youโ€™re trying to deceive them, even if they donโ€™t know exactly why or how.

For example, a nervous smile while rejecting an offer during a negotiation wonโ€™t help you get what you want; it will just make the other person feel uneasy about working with you because theyโ€™ll assume that youโ€™re up to something.

7. Exaggerated nodding signals anxiety about approval.

People may perceive your heavy nods as an attempt to show you agree with or understand something that you actually donโ€™t.

8. Fidgeting with or fixing your hair.

This signals that signals that youโ€™re anxious, over-energized, self-conscious, and distracted. People will perceive you as overly concerned with your physical appearance and not concerned enough with your career.

9. Avoiding eye contact makes it look like you have something to hide.

That arouses suspicion. Lack of eye contact can also indicate a lack of confidence and interest, which you never want to communicate in a business setting.

Looking down as you talk makes it seem like you lack confidence or are self-conscious, causing your words to lose their effect. Itโ€™s especially important to keep your eyes level if youโ€™re making complicated or important points.

Sustained eye contact, on the other hand, communicates confidence, leadership, strength, and intelligence. While it is possible to be engaged without direct, constant eye contact, complete negligence will clearly have negative effects on your professional relationships.

Related: 10 Body Language Cues That Can Instantly Give You Away

10. Eye contact thatโ€™s too intense may be perceived as aggressive, or an attempt to dominate.

On average, Americans hold eye contact for seven to ten seconds, longer when weโ€™re listening than when weโ€™re talking. The way we break contact sends a message, too. Glancing down communicates submission while looking to the side projects confidence.

11. Rolling your eyes is a fail-proof way to communicate a lack of respect.

Fortunately, while it may be a habit, itโ€™s voluntary. You can control it, and itโ€™s worth the effort.

12. Scowling or having a generally unhappy expression.

This sends the message that youโ€™re upset by those around you, even if they have nothing to do with your mood. Scowls turn people away, as they feel judged.

Smiling, however, suggests that youโ€™re open, trustworthy, confident, and friendly. MRI studies have shown that the human brain responds favorably to a person whoโ€™s smiling, and this leaves a lasting positive impression.

13. Weak handshakes signal that you lack authority and confidence.

Weak handshakesย signal that you lack authority and confidence, while a handshake that is too strong could be perceived as an aggressive attempt at domination, which is just as bad. Adapt your handshake to each person and situation, but make sure itโ€™s always firm.

14. Clenched fists, much like crossed arms and legs.

Clenched fists, much like crossed arms and legs, can signal that youโ€™re not open to other peopleโ€™s points. It can also make you look argumentative and defensive, which will make people nervous about interacting with you.

Related: Why Successful People Are Choosing to Wear the Same Thing Every Day

15. Getting too close.

If you stand too close to someone (nearer than one and a half feet), it signals that you have no respect for or understanding of personal space. This will make people very uncomfortable when theyโ€™re around you.

Bringing It All Together

Avoiding these body language blunders will help you form stronger relationships, both professionally and personally. Are there any other blunders I should add to this list? Please share your thoughts in the comments below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

Written by Dr. Travis Bradberry
This post on body language secrets was originally appeared The Good Men Project

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