In our lives, we meet a lot of people who we immediately connect with. We fall in love pretty easily, a result of some hormonal changes. Sometimes it’s all fairy tale, however, sometimes it’s just lust.
However, to find someone special and get into a long-term relationship where there is both a physical as well as emotional connection is something rare and unique. You have every right to follow your instinct and do whatever you please, like indulge in one night stands and casual dating, but nothing can be as enriching as a matured committed relationship. There is an inexplicable comfort and joy in finding someone who knows you from deep down and absolutely adores you for who you are.
However, are we in charge of our own lives?
Have you learned to love yourself? Are you finally ready to face your dark side? Do you look at yourself and feel happy? Are you being productive and creative? Do you respect yourself? Are you finally in a position in life that makes you feel proud of yourself?
You must have already realized that you aren’t a victim of your life but a great actor who knows how to handle any role life throws at them with ease. If you don’t like some things about your life, it is time to change it. Don’t mope around. You aren’t actually the victim, but simply acting like one.
Accept the divine energy and let it guide you to light. Remove all those things from your life that hold you back and don’t give you joy. Instead, take responsibility and make those necessary changes that will help you achieve great victories, successes, win against all odds and achieve your full potential.
You are the scriptwriter and director of this grand movie that your life is. Your past may have many scars and failures attached like depression, sickness and other obstacles on your path, but now you are in a position to start thinking. These events in your life have shaped you as a person and have taught you to be the loving, dedicated, honest person you are. It has made you appreciate the beauty of genuine love. You are now mentally prepared to get into a relationship with someone special who understands you and admires you for who you are and appreciates that you love deeply and intensely.
Long lasting relationships have these characteristics :-
– Both of you share a past, a history, a root that is very similar. You have experienced things that are similar and help you connect in depth.
– You both nurture and preach similar values. Your value system and belief system are same.
– Your relationship is strong and beautiful because it started from a blooming friendship which results in a lovely understanding and mutual respect.
– You let yourself be vulnerable in front of your partner because you trust them with your entire being and feel comfortable and safe with them.
Try this. Create a list of things that you really loved in your past relationships.
Now make another one, about all the things that you faced, which you never want to experience again in a relationship. Now imagine someone who has all the traits combined with the past relationships.
Imagine an ex who hurt you immensely and has all the traits you never want to experience again. When you meet someone new, you will know immediately what you don’t like and so can protect yourself.
Take the warnings and back away as fast as you can. You don’t want to go through hell all over again, do you? Always remember how painful the ordeal was. If you love yourself, you won’t do that to yourself again.
Often people fall for someone who resembles one of their parents. This can be a good or bad thing depending on the relationship with the family.
The question is whether you can be with that person for more than a year and still feel the butterflies and sizzling connection. Do you feel excited to see their face every day? Is your relationship healthy and developing? Does it still have something new and exciting to look forward to?