7. Love is a verb, not a feeling.
If you want your relationship to work, then you have to make an intentional effort to make it work. Two of my most popular articles reinforce this.
If you want the romance to stay alive, you have to keep it alive. As unattractive as that may sound to some people, I think that is the most attractive thing a person can offer.
“I’m making you a priority in my life and will continue to court you and learn new ways of making you happy.”
Is there anything sexier than that?
If you take the time to think about it, some of the biggest lessons we’ve learned have come from our intimate relationships. Our relationships offer us a window into ourselves. We grow from miscommunication and misunderstanding. We become mature by learning how to control our emotions and improving the way we communicate when we are flooded with anger.
Our relationships teach us what is and isn’t acceptable. With every relationship problem that occurs, ask yourself, “what lesson can I learn from this? What is this problem teaching me?”
8. Relationship problems can be a catalyst for profound personal growth.
If you listen, you will quickly discover that life’s powerful lessons are taught within our relationships. With those closest to us.
I’ll leave you with a quote that profoundly continues to touch me and my relationship.
“Romantic love requires courage – the courage to stay vulnerable, to stay open to our feelings to our partner, even when we are temporarily in conflict, even when we are frustrated, hurt, angry – the courage to remain connected with our love, rather than shutting down emotionally, even when it is terribly difficult to do so.
“When a couple lacks this courage and seeks ‘safety’ from pain in the refuge of withdrawal, as so commonly happens, it is not romantic love that has failed them but they who have failed romantic love.”
– Nathaniel Branden.
Dedicated to your personal growth in love.
This was originally published on Healthy Relationships with Kyle Benson
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