- Listen to your gut. If you find yourself sharply veering away from your normal behavior, this is your first clue that you’re in a toxic dynamic. Listen closely. If you’re feeling or acting crazy, remember lost people get us lost. If you’ve been sucked in … face reality about that and stop the conversation and interaction with that person immediately. You do not owe them continued arguing.
- Get outside verification of your situation. Explain the situation to someone you trust and ask for help reconnecting with the thinking part of your brain. Are you misinterpreting things or does this behavior, indeed, seem crazy to them, too?
- Do the opposite of what the Crazy Maker does. If they argue, don’t argue. If they want excitement and drama, avoid being dramatic. If they ignore you in an effort to get you to chase after them, don’t chase. If you remain boring, they’ll eventually leave you alone. Keep your thinking mind open and your mouth shut. Silence is often the best way to calm annoying people. What they want more than anything is your attention and they’ll run around, jump all over and bark incessantly to get it.
- Pick your battles. Never take action when you’re angry. Crazy Makers use your anger to flip you over and win. You’ll never convince them they’re wrong, so don’t waste time trying. Learn not to waste your breath.
- Ignore their tantrums. Their tantrums show up in MANY forms, so beware. The thing to remember about tantrums is they’re just making noise. They’re trying to irritate you and get under your skin until you do what they want. They’re provoking you on purpose so ignore their noise and call their bluff. Set contingencies like a 15-minute late policy; if they’re not on time, leave. If they yell; leave the room. If they play the martyr, don’t give them attention for it. If they ignore you to make you feel insignificant, don’t chase them.
- Never explain yourself. Crazy Makers use misdirection and confusion to throw you off balance and put you on the defensive so you’ll begin explaining yourself. Remember, the more you say, the more ammunition you’re providing them to use against you. It doesn’t matter that you’re right, Crazy Makers get a rise out of making you defend yourself before they go in for the kill. The more you talk the more powerful they feel. Because these people love attention, control and power, silence, and not engaging in the conversation they’re provoking drive them CRAZY! One way to avoid these arguments is to stay on the current issue and use the language of “I would like to find a solution to today’s issue.”
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Know that there really is no help for the people with this personality disorder They are stuck in their reptilian controlling brains causing chaos and drama wherever they go.
Don’t take it personally — they’re this way with everyone. It is not unique to you, regardless of what they may say to make you believe you’re the only person they have issues with.
Your best bet is to limit the amount of time spent around these people and/or get them out of your life, black and white. You will never change them. The only person you can control is you!