Your gut often knows someone before you do.
Your gut can spot ego, character flaws, and negative intentions
because your gut instinct doesn’t overlook past lessons like your mind does.
You have to trust your gut when it comes to choosing the people you surround yourself with.
Do you want to discover some of the important signs that tell you your soul is trying to guide you?
Shamans, medicine people, mystics and sages throughout the ages have always known that the soul doesn’t speak the human language.
Instead, our souls communicate with us through symbols, metaphors, archetypes, poetry, deep feelings and magic. The human language is far too limiting to express the full spectrum of profound knowledge, insight, and revelation that the soul has to share.
As such, most of us were never taught to tune into the dancing rhythms of our deepest selves. Instead, due to our social conditioning, we have come to heavily rely on the mind only and its interpretation of reality. Unfortunately, our emphasis on hard data, facts and linear logic has left a gaping hole inside of us. We fill this empty hole with consumerism, addictions, violence and endless distractions.
Sometimes, a traumatic or extreme event in our lives shakes us out of our habitual way of perceiving existence. But usually, most of us tend to miss the big, glaring daily signs that the soul within us is trying to communicate with us. Not only that, but we tend to actively mistrust, ignore or doubt any sacred form of communication that we receive.
How can we begin to tune into the subtle voice of the soul and rewire our conditioned brains? How can we listen to our soul’s vital messages and nourish ourselves with its life-changing wisdom?
Soul Communication: 7 Important Signs to Look Out For
Soul communication isn’t just reserved for medicine men or women, or enlightened people; it is a birthright of every man, woman, and child. It is a vital part of soul work.
For years I lived without the guidance of my soul, actively ignoring it or numbing myself out from its voice. Since reconnecting with my soul, I have discovered that it offers endless gifts, insights, teachings, and direction that helps me to connect with my innate wholeness and life purpose.
Observing the people in our society, I’m saddened to see how soulfully emaciated we are. I can immediately tell whether a person has got in touch with their soul or not by the luster in their skin, the glow in their eyes and the type of energy they transmit. Unfortunately, most people are shells of what they could truly become. It’s almost like we are living our lives grabbing at whatever source of warmth we can scavenge when in truth, we are the fire and warmth we’re seeking for.
If you’d like to learn soul communication, you must first pay attention to the signs that your soul is whispering.
There are many types of signs out there, but below I have compiled some of the main ones you should look out for:
1. Dream signs
In the West, psychologists believe that dreams are the unconscious mind’s way of making sense of reality. But in ancient cultures, such as in Egypt and Greece, dreams were messages from the spirits, gods, or divine realm. Many indigenous cultures have also used dreams as a gateway to higher consciousness and revelation (e.g. native Americans).
These days, most healers agree that dreams express important messages and truths about our lives and destinies. In my experience, dreams can serve as doorways to new insight, reflections of true inner feelings, and even portals to interacting with spirit guides.
Pay attention to your dreams and the images, symbols, and scenarios within them. What stands out to you? You might like to keep a dream journal and record your immediate impressions. Please note that dream dictionaries can sometimes help you out, but they rarely convey the true message your dream is trying to transmit to you. Why? Dreams and the archetypes/symbology within them are highly contextual and personal. A snake, for instance, could be a positive sign for one person, and a negative sign for another. This is one of the most important signs that tell you that your soul is trying to guide you.
2. Lucid dreams
Spontaneous lucid dreams involve suddenly becoming aware that you’re dreaming while asleep. Becoming conscious within your dream world is not only spiritually symbolic (literally of “waking up”), but it is also an opportunity to explore the hidden realm of your unconscious mind. This opportunity from your soul is rare, or it could be constant without any effort on your behalf.
Regardless, it is possible to actively practice lucid dreaming. You might like to learn more about lucid dreaming here.
If you’re in the habit of having spontaneous lucid dreams, treat it as a sacred gift. Very few people have access to the depths of the unconscious realms. Treat this as an opportunity to ask yourself questions and find the direction that you wouldn’t be able to otherwise access in waking life.
3. Repetitive words or numbers
How many times have you looked at the clock and seen “11:11,” “12:12,” “13:13”? Many skeptics say that putting importance into repetitive words and numbers is a reflection of something called “confirmation bias,” but I personally don’t believe this is the case. It’s easy to be cynical and use the left-brained approach, but much harder to explore the personal meaning of these experiences.
Regardless of the meaning, we assign to repetitive words and numbers, the function of them is to momentarily “wake us up.” Otherwise, why would we give them so much significance? Whenever I see a repeated number or hear a name/word said constantly, I take it as a sign of soul communication.
So whenever you hear a picture, word or number repeated, ask yourself, what is the hidden message?
4. Animal omens and guides
Most of us come across animals every day. When you pay attention to these different animals, you realize that each one has a specific teaching, message or energy type.
However, it’s important to keep in mind that the meaning you assign to different animals is highly personal and not necessarily the “orthodox” meaning already established out there. So don’t feel the need to go by the “textbook” definition. Go with your gut.
One way of discovering your own unique meanings is to observe what animals you constantly come across every day. Watch them and try to understand what their teaching is. What are they revealing? How do they behave, move or sound? This is a powerful form of soul communication.
For example, you might constantly come across crows. Watching these crows, you might realize that they are always very loud and agitated. The message you might assign to these animal messengers could be that you need to pay more attention to the emotions you have suppressed so that they can be released.
My fiancé knew exactly what to say to wound me and knock me off balance. Like many others, you sometimes don’t know how to stand up for yourself, and this was the case for me.
One evening at dinner, he zinged me with a snide remark about my weight (I was a size 8). He jeered, “Ya know, the problem with fat people is they never leave anything on their plate. When you finish eating, I don’t even have to wash your plate.”
I told him his comment hurt my feelings. He retorted, “Jeez, You said you wanted to lose weight. I was trying to help you. I’ll just leave you alone from now on.”
He made me feel guilty, but in my gut I knew it was his attempt to throw me off track.
Children sometimes grow up with a weak sense of self. And when you don’t trust your gut, you leave yourself vulnerable.
Growing up I heard statements like, “You shouldn’t feel that way. You’re overreacting,” and, “You’re being too sensitive, Nancy.” While these statements seemed harmless and insignificant, it was put-down phrases like these which told me my feelings were incorrect and taught me to doubt, deny and stuff my hurt feelings.
As an adult, I doubted my self-worth and I questioned my ability to understand people who were manipulative and controlling. I even doubted my gut feelings.
Even though my gut feeling told me to, I couldn’t confront a girlfriend who treated me unfairly. I didn’t know how to deal with and a conniving coworker. I struggled to maintain healthy boundaries with my overbearing mother and sharp-tongued, calculating daughter.
I was afraid to stand up to the people I loved because I didn’t want to seem irrational, unreasonable or ungrateful. I was naïve, gullible and trusting. I didn’t trust my judgments about men. I evaluated men (and everyone) with my impressionable, impulsive emotions.
When I dated a guy, I struggled to figure him out. I blamed myself for my relationship problems (because he told me I was at fault). I whined to my girlfriend, “Do you think he likes me?” “What should I say or do next?” “Do you think he’ll call me again?” “Why did he stop calling me?” And, of course, “What did I do wrong?” I made bad relationship choices and I got my heart broken frequently.
I was accustomed to the accusing, disparaging, befuddling statements that a man would hurl at me during an argument.
He’d growl, “That’s not what I said,” or “You heard that wrong,” or “I don’t remember saying that,” or “What’s wrong with you? I was only joking!” When those digs failed to squelch my spirit he’d use his well-honed jab, “You’re overreacting” — code for: “What’s wrong with you?”
I wondered: Was I being overly sensitive to his seemingly spiteful, wounding remarks? Could I have misheard or misinterpreted what felt like a hard slap in the face? Am I the one who is destroying our relationship, like he says I am?
And then I began to ask myself: If I misunderstood what he said, or if he didn’t say what I heard him say: Why then did I hurt so bad inside? Am I that much out of touch with reality?
The book Blink presents the power of “thin slicing.” It states that “thin slicing” — that is, our first subconscious, split-second, knee-jerk reaction — is our most intellectual and accurate observation, and that it is the feeling we should trust.
The book explains that you must practice and perfect the skill of thin slicing (taking in a very thin slice of information and making an accurate prediction or assessment) in order to instinctively eliminate confusing and unimportant incoming data that can lead to a bad decision (e.g., my fiancé’s charm, braggadocio and exciting personality caused me to discount the obvious fact that he was, in fact, a flagrant, lying dirt bag).
A scumbag may fool your heart, but he can’t fool your ability to trust your gut.
When a boyfriend or husband tries to put you down, know this: A man’s discounting, dismissive, blaming statements are designed to make YOU doubt your ability to reason and understand a dysfunctional relationship.
Trust your inner knowing. Don’t let a man or anyone talk you out of your feelings. Subconsciously you know the truth.
You suspect he’s lying. You did NOT misconstrue what he said.
These signs will indicate if you are in love with a crazy maker.
You’re NOT losing your mind … that person is an asshole!
Think about the most annoying people in your life, whether it is a partner, a boss, a friend or someone else close to you. In these relationships, you somehow lose track of yourself — acting like a maniac or feeling constantly uncertain — and you can’t figure out how or why.
Looking back on past relationships, you know you haven’t always behaved this way, but in this particular relationship with this particular narcissist person, you get hooked every time.
Why do certain people have this power over us and make us feel crazy?
It’s like there’s always some edge we’re about to fall off or we feel constantly confused. People like this are called Crazy Makers. And dealing with them is maddening.
Not sure if you’re in a relationship with one or not? Keep reading to learn the signs you’re in love with a narcissist and the characteristics of this frustrating behavioral pattern.
Then, you can learn some smart strategies for dealing with the Crazy Makers in your life.
1. They’re nice on the outside, not so much on the inside.
Crazy Makers hide their true identities by acting nice, altruistic, empathic, concerned and caring on the surface. When you first meet them, you’ll strike up an instant rapport and think they’re the nicest person ever.
Beware, however, because Crazy Makers shape-shift themselves into whatever you want to see, but only long enough to lure you in. Once you’re hooked, all things end up in arguments and your general emotional state becomes one of frustration and anger.
Because they still strategically flash their “nice” side, you’ll continually justify your relationship with them and live in a world of confusion. It’s a cycle of feeling mad enough to leave the relationship only to then receive just a drop enough to pull you back in. Over and over.
2. Taking care of them is YOUR job.
People with this personality disorder want a life full of fun, leisure and excitement and anything outside of fun is not their thing. They prefer to others (aka you) to handle all things boring or difficult.
In other words, they’re allergic to the words “responsibility” and/or “accountability.” Oh, and those who delay their gratification experience the full wrath of a Crazy Marker’s discontent.
Remember, they’re not in relationships to contribute; they here to receive and for someone else to take care of them. These narcissists always want more than they give and they don’t really care how you feel about it.
3. They’re selfish.
This is their central feature. Crazy Makers do not operate in relationships with an ounce of empathy or fairness. Their idea of fairness is them getting what they want exactly at the moment they want it. They feel entitled to it.
They’re stubborn, opinionated, and unreliable and refuse to perform on demand (though they expect you to do so). They are intentional in their desire to get others annoyed all the while acting as if everyone outside of them is overreacting. It is their world and you are just a visitor.
4. They are never wrong. EVER.
Egocentric creatures that they are, Crazy Makers live in a world of complete distortion. They see themselves as victims of their circumstances.
From their perception, they never make mistakes, are never wrong, and their motives are always of pure intent. They take no responsibility for their own behavior.
One of the more maddening signs you’re in love with a narcissist is their inability to distinguish important from unimportant matters. They argue over everything and nothing, often making the biggest fuss over the matters of least significance.
Kicking up dust deflects their responsibility for the issue at hand and throws their victims off target. They’ll use anything to justify their anger while pointing the way you’re actually in the wrong. They only see certain “facts” and eliminate all other useful (or fair) information.
5. They throw tantrums.
Wow, do these people have tantrums down to a science, maybe even an art form. They make a ton of noise when not immediately gratified, often throwing around verbal threats, justifications, and rationalizations for meeting their demands immediately.
Their other favorite way to throw a fit is pretending you don’t exist. They’ll ignore you as you speak, walk right by you, or make noise in one form or another until you either attack back (so they can blame you for your “anger”) or you give in because it’s not worth the fight. Either reaction encourages the cycle because the Crazy Maker did get their way.