Steps to Creating the Life You Actually Want
Life’s such a complex thing. If we think about it, no one knows why, how, and when it all started. Everything’s how it’s supposed to be, our bodies and minds are functioning on their own, and all we can do is question, test, and agree with different beliefs that will eventually allow us to function.
Thing is…you’re probably not thinking it this way. The majority of people are stuck in a continuous cycle that doesn’t allow them to think about their life. On a conscious level, people understand that some of their decisions were bad. They understand that their life’s not as it supposed to be and that there’s a strong need of change.
But, unfortunately, these conscious thoughts will never propel anyone towards a better life. Honestly, there’s no magic formula for creating a better or a perfect life. Everything’s too abstract and too unpredictable, so every individual follows his own course.
If you’re reading this article, you’re probably looking for some practical tips that’ll inspire you to make a change. I guess you’ve probably realized that enough is enough and that you finally need to make the courage to change something for good.
We’re going to approach 7 steps that’ll allow you finally reach the outcome that you’re dreaming of. Pay attention, take notes, and most importantly, TAKE ACTION.
1. Assume FULL Responsibility for Everything that Surrounds Your Existence
The first step towards change is accepting that you’re the only one responsible for everything that’s happening to you. It’s easy to blame different circumstances or persons for your lack of happiness and balance. What successful people do, though, they take responsibility for all of their actions.
Remember. Every cause has an effect. So even the smallest decision you’re taking will surely have an impact on your future.
2. Pursue Your Unique Purpose
Every one of us has a greater purpose. It’s not a cliché, trust me. In case you’re looking to make a great change in your life, you’ll have to first know what you want to do. If I asked you this simple question: “What do you want to do for the rest of your life? What is the purpose of your unique existence?” What would you respond?
Take a moment and reflect. Finding your purpose isn’t something anyone can teach you. You need to try to look “within”, explore your inner self, and look for the answers on your own.
Never keep your goals in your mind. It has been actually proven that goals that are written down are much more likely to be accomplished than goals that are kept just in the minds of the subjects.
Jerry Watson, shares his goal-setting process:
“Start setting 3 long term goals. Let’s say, in 1 year exactly, you want to earn 50$/month. Another one could be to travel to Hawaii. Choose your third.
Now, start creating monthly goals based on the 3 yearly goals you have set. So if 50$/month is your long goal, you need to create a sub-action. Something like “By the end of January, I’ll have my website up and running. By the end of February, I’ll have the marketing campaign set in motion and I’ll be able to sell my product”.
You got the idea. Once you’re done with the monthly, think about the weekly ones. The same rule applies – everything’s connected to the bigger goal”
4. Emotionally Connect with Your Goals
If you’re not emotionally connected with your goals, you’ll never be able to reach them. People that succeed in what they are almost always committed to doing the work. Many of them don’t even perceive it as work, so they’re only playing each day.
In order to connect with your goals, you need to find the reason why you want what you want. Once you figure out what drives you, you can use that drive to move forward each time you’re going through challenges.
5. Start Taking Consistent Action
Once your finish with all the planning, it’s time to take action. The action is equal to personal power. It’s your ability to make actual change by moving around, solving things, fixing problems, and so on. Without the struggle, you’ll never get to witness change.
The simple fact that you might have negative habits that are already influencing your lifestyle is keeping you stuck. You can use your personal power to start taking care of the important things.