7 Life-Changing Lessons To Learn From A Bad Breakup

If you’re going through a breakup, then you already know how gut-wrenchingly painful it is.

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And, as much as you might not be certain about things right now, there is truly a silver lining and important lessons to learn.

 

Here we go:

1. Your Personal Deal Breakers

After a while, it becomes clear what you absolutely don’t want and won’t tolerate in a relationship. You might have initiated the breakup or they might have, but either way— realizing which traits you absolutely don’t want in a partner is crucial for creating the relationship you DO want. You might have totally let yourself go. You might have totally settled for less than you deserve.

All of this is important information for next time.

 

2. Your Emotional Triggers

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If your ex said or did something that really set you off, that’s an important place to center some healing energy. Other people are powerful mirrors, and sometimes they dredge up pain we’ve long tried to bury. Sometimes when we look deeper at what happened, your ex might have said or done something that opened an old wound that could really use deep healing.

Breakups are a powerful opportunity to learn about the places we’ve been withholding healing because, during happier times, we aren’t necessarily digging around in the recesses of our psyche looking for repressed childhood pain.

Breakups bring this stuff to the surface whether we want that or not.

 

3. What You Really Want Out of a Relationship in the Future

Once we get the chance to step back from the wreckage of a failed relationship, the lessons about what we really want can be pretty profound. You might need someone who is less critical, needy or clingy.

You might want to make sure you pick out a person who has the same goals as you do. It might be as simple as wanting a lot more sex, or a lot more hugs. Whatever it is, now you have a fresh slate to go out and create it.

 

4. Change Is a Constant. Pain Doesn’t Have to Be

When the people we thought would love us forever have made it clear that it isn’t happening, we have a choice.

We can soldier through the pain and come out on the other side happier, wiser and improved.

Or we can fall and stay fallen. We can give up. We can decide love is hopeless and not for us—but going the negative route just guarantees more pain. And, as gut-wrenchingly painful as it is, choosing to make the most of it and move on from the pain is the option that will free us from pain the soonest.

 

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Elizabeth Stonehttp://attracttheone.com
Elizabeth Stone is a coach, author and founder of Attract The One. Tirelessly focused on helping people improve their love lives, her work has been featured on EHarmony Blog, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha, Your Tango, Mogul, Fox News Magazine, Ravishly, Femalista, Popsugar, Read Unwritten, Medium, Steemit, She Knows and many more.
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