2. Give Me a Hint That You Actually Like Me.
Jared meets Missy at a party. They talk for 20 minutes or so, then suddenly Jared ends the conversation and walks away. Missy is left confused. She thought they’d hit it off. What gives?
When a woman is a little bit nervous or shy, men can mistakenly assume she’s not interested, even if her body language is saying she is.
Missy just didn’t know what to say or how to give Jared any hints that she was available, so he walked away too quickly. She might have thought that smiling and asking him questions was doing the trick, but he wanted more proof before he made himself vulnerable by asking her out.
Men like Jared are looking for that little piece of evidence that you are interested in them. Yes, we have delicate egos sometimes. We want to be 100% sure you are into us before we ask you out because the absolute worst thing we can possibly imagine is that you will reject us.
Him: Well, I really enjoyed our little conversation. Would you want to go out sometime?
You: Uh…I would…except I’m married.
So make sure you’re getting the message across. Touch him now and then on the arm or the chest. Compliment him. Laugh at his jokes. Find a way to let him know you’re available.
3. I Love You…But That Woman Over There is Also Pretty Cute.
Ug, I know how much you hate it when your guy looks at other women.
But please understand it does not mean he’s going to cheat on you…or break up with you…or sleep with her.
I’m going to once again pull out the evolution card. We men were designed to spread our seed far and wide. Monogamy changed that because now, instead of being cavemen having dozens of cavebabies with multiple women to populate this brave new world, we are boyfriends and husbands who remain with the same woman for years or even a lifetime.
We’re in relationships built on love and trust, not a reproduction.
And yet…that deep impulse to spread our seed still exists somewhere.
Now, I’m not telling you that all men cheat because they don’t. What I am saying is that there’s a biological function happening when we see an attractive woman. We get a chemical high when presented with an appealing female. We are usually smart enough not to act on it (like she’d give us the time of day), but of course, if you catch us doing this, you will hit us with your purse.
When you understand what men think about women, you can see that we are simply appreciative of beauty. It could be in an art gallery. In nature. Or in a bar. Sorry. We don’t discern among types of works of art!
I have not met a single guy, regardless of age or relationship status, who can’t help but check out a beautiful woman. Don’t blame us… blame evolution! It doesn’t mean anything. It’s just a simple look and that’s all.
4. Dear God, Stop Complaining!
You: Jeez. My hair is so flat. I feel gross today. I just want to stay home in yoga pants.
Him: Gaaaa! You look fine. Amazing even. Stop complaining!
Please stop complaining about your looks. You are beautiful, and we’re with you because we are attracted to you. We all have days where we don’t feel 100% but sometimes, ladies, what men think about women is that they complain. All. The. Damn. Time.
Don’t be that person.
I realize that the media — and even social media — play a huge effect and messes with your mind. It tells you that you’re not beautiful so that you will go out and spend a bunch of money on the products they’re trying to sell.
Fashion magazines make you feel fat (despite the fact that those models are Photoshopped to look skinny and perfect). Celebrities look flawless on the red carpet (despite you not knowing that they ate only cabbage and beet juice for a week before the event).
So we get that sometimes you don’t feel beautiful.
However, it can be very frustrating when we find you incredibly attractive, but you don’t see that in yourself. Remember: men love a confident lady, and moaning and groaning all the time does not make you seem confident at all.
So screw the media and anyone who makes you feel that you’re not beautiful enough because you are! And accept our compliments! We don’t throw them around carelessly. If we tell you that you’re beautiful, say “thank you”, not “noooo, I’m hideous!”