The 4 Common Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Kids

Common Parenting Styles Effects Kids


This type of parenting style is not suitable in families with a low socio-economic background as the children might be exposed to more violence and aggression and the parents need to be strict with their rules and regulations to establish restrictions on them (Gfroerer et al., 2004; Rothrauff, Cooney, & An, 2009. 

3. Permissive Parenting style

Permissive parenting style is characterised by high responsiveness and low demandingness. Parents who follow this parenting style is non-punitive, warm and accepting of their children ad never implement restrictions on them. 

Salient features of Permissive Parenting Style:

  • Liberal parents with no or negligible restrictions on the children’s activities and actions. 
  • Children are allowed to exercise full autonomy (Gfroerer et al. 2004). 
  • Parents encourage their children to do whatever they want to do.
  • Parents do not set boundaries for their children.
  • Parents are loving, non-controlling and affirmative in carrying out their responsibility of children.
  • Parents lack the guidance the children need as the children are left to explore the world all by themselves.

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Even though this kind of parenting looks incredible on the surface level but in the big picture, the benefits are low. 

  • The children gets a lot of freedom and chances to cater to their need for curiosity as they explore the world by themselves. 
  • Learning through experience has more rewards than learning through other people’s guidance. So, children who were raised by permissive parents gain a lot of experience and wisdom.

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  • The children might grow up to show problematic behaviour like being addicted to substances, getting engaged in illegal activities, displaying delinquent behaviours etc. 
  • Children of permissive parents might grow up to be indecisive in nature, lacking good judgmental skills.
  • These children have low self-esteem as they have been growing up without the attention and care of the parents.
  • Lack of guidance might land these young children in trouble as they fall prey to inappropriate circumstances.
  • Children grow up confused between what is right and what is wrong as they have no moral guidance from their parents.

4. Neglectful parenting style:

Neglectful parenting style was identified by Maccoby and Martin in 1983 and is not a part of the Baumrind’s parenting typology. This type of parenting style has two important components – Low responsiveness and low demandingness.

Parents who follow this style is highly unconcerned, neglectful showing lack of warm, connectivity and care towards their child. They are even undemanding of the child showing no interest or attention to the child. This makes the child believe that other aspects of parents’ lives are more important than them. They feel ignored and rejected by their parents. 

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Salient features of Neglectful Parenting Style:

  • Parents are emotionally absent, neglectful and ignorant towards their child even when they might provide food, shelter and basic amenities for their children.
  • Parents do not demand anything from their children.
  • Children grow up on their own without any guidance from the parents.
  • Parents are  disconnected and detached from their children. 
  • Lack of communication leads the children to down regulate their emotions. 


There are no benefits to this type of parenting. Moreover, this type of parenting leads to a number of negative consequences. 


  • Children developed low self-esteem on being brought up by neglectful parents. 
  • Many mental health issues like depression, anxiety came up in these children.
  • Neglected children grew up to have difficulties in interpersonal relationships, career choices and social interactions.
  • Emotional dysregulation during childhood among these children lead to problems in expressing emotions, controlling it and managing it. They grow up to have less empathy.
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Shreyasi Debnath

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