Have you ever thought what makes you feel depressed despite you being surrounded by people, even though you talk and mingle with them?
This is the ceiling of negativity over you. Negativity thrives when you are surrounded by negative people. We tend to become emotional in front of people, and your emotions are the biggest weapon in their hand to utilize you.
You will hardly notice anyone who is authentically happy, and by genuine happiness, I mean the happiness that comes from being surrounded by the positive people. Either you have to be amongst those pessimistic ones, or you need to stay with those handful people who are your positive charm.
Now, what would you like to do when you are feeling low? You need to know whether the people with whom you are hanging out, going on trips, eating out, sleeping over, studying with – are the positive ones or not, right? Of course, for this removal of depression, one must understand the importance of getting rid of a negative company.
You know, when you are gradually surrounded by positive people, you will slowly notice a change of aura from pessimism to optimism, you will start loving yourself, there will be no one before whom you will feel depressed, you can feel a positive charm around you and you will want to be accompanied by those people more and more.
Negativity leads you to isolation, which you don’t realize initially. However, you have to learn to protect your own self from falling prey to negativity, right?
So, here are few signs which will let you feel that you may be surrounded by negative people and it is time you think about a change.
• Forever pessimists:
One fine day she asked her friend, “Will I ever get him back?” An instant reply came from the other end, “Are you even mad? Have you lost it? He is never to come. Go and see he may be mingling with someone else.” Coincidentally, the boy was deeply hurt and badly wanted to reconcile with her. That friend has always been a pessimist.
You know, during a hard time we always need positive energies from our friends. This is one scene which we have witnessed in our lives. This is how you become surrounded by negative energy. Now you know that you may also have been surrounded by someone like this who is intentionally filling your life with negativity, but you are unknown of the fact.
• “I am always a loser”:
You might have experienced some of your close mates saying this. The negative ones always intentionally consider them the victims or the losers. They always deliberately take up the action of being the one hurt. Even if they are not linked to the case, they consider themselves the victim. So, it is better to stay away from these people if you want your determination to keep you moving on in life.
• “No dude, I am just so stuck today”:
Heard this line maybe yesterday, right? The negative people actually are very selfish – THEY NEVER REALLY HAVE TIME FOR YOU. You heard me right; it is only when they are free you will be the perfect person for them to hang out with. But when you need them, they are like, “I am stuck at my office”. If they had been positive buddies, the friendship would have been a both ways pertaining one where you would have always got your mate by your side.
• A pretty exploitative friendship:
They will always be at your service when you are providing them with something in return. They are very advantageous. They are ready to take advantage of you and exploit you to your maximum. Be it a financial advantage, study or even an amorous one, they can even be your most pretentious positive accompany.
“You are so mean”, “You never do it right” – they are very consistent in finding faults in your friendship. You have to perfect solely for them. Even if it is the noisy traffic or the cold winds, they find faults in everything present and seen.
• Energy absorber:
You do not really feel charged up whenever you are with your negative friends. They don’t make you feel worthy. Positive friends create moments of ecstasy which you want to feel again. However, the thought of meeting this negative person only drains your energy, which means there is no positive vibe in that friendship.
• They want your transition:
Be it your way of walking, or your style of conversing, or anything relatable to you is a must change for them. They cannot accept you the way you are if you are not exactly like them.
• Gossip heads:
She never knew that her best friend in school stole her pencil box until the negative people told her. The negative friends always have something to gossip about. They just cannot keep the conversation up to a limit, there are always nasty and controversial topics they bring up whenever they indulge in a conversation.
• A negative curtain veiling you:
The more you interact with the negative people, the more you will start feeling bad about yourself. The thoughts you never had before will start instigating your mind. This cloud over your head will blur your vision and take you further away from your dream.
• Exhaustion of positive people:
This is the lamentable part; you will gradually start losing positive people because of the negativity they see in you bubbling now. They will start giving up on you because they now know that the more they are in your company, the more will they suffer out of anxiety and pessimism.
• Pessimism couples with envy:
Most mandatorily, negative people cannot stand your success. They cannot stand your goodwill, talents, accreditations or anything successful. They are so engrossed in heightening themselves that their pretentious good face falls off while seeing you win. This does not happen in a positive relationship, you are backed up by your positive mate to the way of success. Negative people even reach the point of going against you in this scenario.