10 Tips That Will Help You Avoid Emotional Manipulation

Tips Help Avoid Emotional Manipulation

9. Getting a certain favor by asking for something bigger first.

That’s a basic lesson in the “Manipulation Textbook” and it’s widely used. It’s as simple as that– if you want something, ask for something bigger first. That’s an average level of practicable psychology by once again using tools like guilt and selfishness. Need 20$ but your friend is kind of frugal? Ask him for 40$ first and after he refuses to ask for 20 – “ok, will you at least give me 20 then?”.

The key here is to swallow your forced guilt and say a hearty NO!

10. Using aggression to manipulate people.

Another trend among manipulators is the use of aggression for their purposes. The good news is it’s pretty easy to spot. To understand how to cope with it, you have to know that manipulation is not identified by how the other person is behaving- it is identified by how you feel. The main goal of intimidation is controlling through fear.

For example, someone in the club is giving you a murderous look without any verbal or physical actions because you’re dancing with that pretty girl. There’s a way to handle similar situations called the ‘’frame control method’’. Long story short, it’s having the strongest, most unmoving view of the situation when in a group of 2 or more people.

Related: Are You Dating an Emotional Predator? – Signs of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths

What this means is, when this guy is trying to intimidate you, you simply behave as he is upset and needs someone to reflect his emotions back to him. That’s your view of the situation or your ‘’frame’’. The aggressor’s frame is that you are scared of him. It all comes to which frame is strongest at the end. In other words, you just remain neutral and calmly reflect back on what you’re seeing. This resistance is the key to frame control.


Written by Milen Raychev
Originally appeared on IheartIntelligence.com
10 Tips That Will Help You Avoid Emotional Manipulation
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