10 Things I Learned While Everyone Else Was Getting Married

While Everyone Else Was Getting Married

When it comes to marriage, everyone has different perceptions. Some people want to live in a romantic relationship without ever getting married, while others want to stay single forever. Also, there are people who are willing to marry only after accomplishing career goals, while few are ready for commitment just to feel complete.

Are you in a confusion whether to marry or not?

Here’re 10 Things I Learned While Everyone Else Was Getting Married

1. Don’t settle out of fear.

Most people settle for marriage out of fear of being single,  according to recent studies. Negative affirmations like “I cannot find someone better if I get older” or “I should get married else I will be left alone” push you towards poor relationships that are unlikely to last longer.

Fear is an illusion of mind and leads to poor judgment. As you rush to get married just because none of your friends are single anymore, you “miss critical warning signs that a potential partner is a bad news” as per  Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist based in Los Angeles. It’s better to stay alone until you find a partner who loves you the way you deserve to be loved.

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2. Being single has benefits.

According to a study published in the Journal of Current Directions in Psychological Science –  singles are assumed to be immature, maladjusted, and selfish. Such stigma gives rise to discrimination. For example, a rental application denied in favor of a married couple. But recent studies showed that single people are less self-centered, helpful to family, friends and ailing parents and more giving than married and cohabitating couples. Its time to debunk harmful myths like this!

Related: 8 Reasons Why It’s Better To be Single

A successful marriage shouldn’t always be the main source of happiness. Being single helps you ponder and figure out what you really want. It’s the phase, where you have the opportunity to indulge in things that interest you, build strong friendships, devote yourself to causes that you’re passionate about. Singlehood is the stage where you can develop a sense of self-worth. You don’t seek an identity that is not attached to a romantic partner’s love and approval.

These experiences will help you feel satisfied in your life with or without a partner. Even if you’re in a relationship, you may be less likely to have unrealistic expectations that your partner can and should meet all your needs.

3. Your list of ideal husband changes over time. 

By the time you reach your mid or late twenties, your perception about good husband changes drastically. Instead of charm and other external factors like money and status, you start looking for deeper qualities like responsibility, confidence, honesty, integrity, righteousness and so on.

As you grow up what matters to you most is having a partner who will lead you and your family to the right path, gives the affection you deserve, appreciates little things you do for him, and has patience dealing with troubles. Things that matter to you most keep changing as time passes.

Related: The Best Way To Find The Right Partner For You

4. Choose the right career over marriage

No matter what a stable career never leaves you. Mid-twenties is the right phase to discover yourself, work as your passion, explore the corporate world and figure out what you want to do in life. Finding the right career and getting stable is important than marriage because it will make you self-sufficient. It adds to your purpose, boosts your self-confidence and self-esteem.

You will grow and learn from new experiences in life. Your financial independence not only makes you internally driven but makes you a happier person. A good career can help you survive even when your partner and parents leave you.  So, get professionally stable before you settle down.

16 thoughts on “10 Things I Learned While Everyone Else Was Getting Married”

  1. Like for everything, there is marriage and marriage. There is absolutely NOTHING that should prevent someone from learning while they are married, NOTHING AT ALL !!! Just get married for the right reasons and stop trying to keep people appart. This self, me me me, egotistic life style pushed down our throats, needs to stop. To learn to be on our own is one thing, but it should definitely not be the goal. The goal is to learn to live with each other, not the other way around. If all the misery in the world have not tought this to someone, then marriage is not what is stopping the person from learning.

  2. Yeah , most of people here think that late in marriage is bad idea ; in fact , it is not bad one , because it makes you learn about getting married .
    Mélo , what do you think ?

    1. I want to realize all my dreams before getting married, besides that the life when you are single isn’t the same when you a husband or even a father, my dreams now are like a great plan for my future career as well as my future family’s life.

    2. Very good , I like your opinion , and your development of you ideas , I wish you will realize your dreams

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