What would love be without a little heartbreak?
You have to kiss a few frogs before you find your Prince Charming (or Cinderella).
Getting your heart broken can be one of the most painful things you ever feel. Whether someone cheats on you, someone passes away, or the love of your life leaves you — there’s no way to spin it, it’s awful.
You might think that if you see it coming, the pain might be more manageable … but heartbreak is heartbreak. Whether you’re blindsided by the whole thing or you’ve picked up on signs ahead of time, you still gave your heart to a person who decided they don’t want it anymore.
It’s sounds harsh — I know. But, you’re not alone in feeling this way. Just about everyone can say they’ve had their heart broken at one time or another and no one escapes unscathed. The good news is that there’s usually a lesson to be learned. You can always take something away from a negative experience to make your future relationships better.
And without ever feeling heartbreak, we can’t fully appreciate good love when we have it.
It just goes to show that you can really put a positive spin on anything in life if you look hard enough for the silver lining. Does heartbreak hurt like hell? Of course it does. Are you going to get through it? Absolutely.
We all have weaknesses, and — unfortunately — they tend to be quite noticeable in relationships which can sometimes mean we’re going to get hurt in all sorts of ways.
We look toward the stars to help us learn what our weaknesses really are, because when we are born can tell us a lot about our personalities and how we deal with challenges in relationships.
To help you prepare for the inevitable heartbreak you’ll face, we’re sharing the number one reason you push people away and — based on your zodiac sign.
Aries: (March 21-April 19)
Your mood swings put a real damper on your relationships. At first, your significant other says that they can handle you at your best AND at your worst, but they don’t realize what they signed up for. Just as soon as you start to get attached, they discover they bit off more than they can chew.
The only way this ends is with inevitable heartbreak, sorry.
Taurus: (April 20-May 20)
You play it cool in the beginning of your relationships, so the other person is caught completely by surprise when you become clingy and overly obsessive. You drive them away with your possessiveness because you constantly seek their attention and become super needy.
You become so attached that being broken up with rips your heart right out of your chest.
Gemini: (May 21-June 20)
You can be so inconsistent that your partner has no idea whether you’re serious about the relationship or not. You’re nervous about putting yourself out there, but ultimately it’s the reason you get your heart broken.
Your significant other usually ends things with you before you have the chance to end things with them.
Cancer: (June 21-July 22)
There’s nothing that drives people away like deep insecurity. You constantly need your partner to reassure that they love you and that they don’t want anyone else. Because of this insecurity, you become very suspicious of their actions and what they do when you’re not around.
If you keep this up, it won’t be long before they’ve had enough of it and end things.
Leo: (July 23-August 22)
You’re often very full of yourself and your partner picks up on it sooner or later. They may just think it’s charming confidence at first, but after awhile they start to notice that it’s more than that.
Your arrogance can drive a wedge between you and your significant other, leaving you with a broken heart.
Virgo: (August 23-September 22)
Your constant judgment often becomes too much for your significant other to handle. You over-analyze everything and are critical of your partner in too many situations. This makes them feel like they’re not good enough for you and that you think they never do anything right.
You’ll break his heart without even realizing it, forcing him to break yours.
Libra: (September 23-October 22)
Wallowing in your own self-pity is a surefire way to make your lover lose interest — quick! No one wants someone who is constantly throwing themselves a pity party and focusing on negative things all the time. Your significant other doesn’t want to feel like they’re not having a positive impact on your life.
If you keep feeling sorry for yourself, the person you love will look for someone who WILL appreciate them.
Scorpio: (October 23-November 21)
You keep way too many secrets from your other half and they can’t trust you. Trust is everything in a relationship and if your significant other can’t trust you then the relationship won’t last very long.
Unless you start being honest, expect a broken heart.
Sagittarius: (November 22-December 21)
No one wants to be in a relationship full of empty promises. If you keep promising more than you can deliver, how will your partner know what they can trust and what they can’t? Unless someone knows what to expect from you, they’ll expect the worst.
Your partner doesn’t want to be let down forever so it’s only a matter of time before they hit the road.
Capricorn: (December 22-January 19)
You need to learn to pick your battles. Let go of the stupid little things that are common in every relationship and accept them. You have to forgive your partner for the things that don’t really matter when you look at the big picture.
If you continue to hold every single thing over his head then you’ll eventually send him packing.
Aquarius: (January 20-February 18)
It’s time for you to open up and let someone in. You can’t expect your significant other to stand by your side if you won’t even be honest with him about your true feelings. You spend way too much time running from your emotions and refuse to put your heart on the line because you are afraid.
Unfortunately, the fear of a broken heart will likely be the reason you find yourself suffering from one.
Pisces: (February 19-March 20)
You’re never fully satisfied with the reality of your life. Constantly looking for something (or someone) better and escaping your reality tends to throw off the people who trying to be a part of your life.
If make someone feel like they’re not good enough to anchor you down to reality and you’re still looking for more (no matter how hard they try), they’re going to finally give up and move on.
Originally appeared on Your tango
Written by Madelyn Rennie