“IF YOU EXPECT NOTHING FROM ANYBODY, YOU’RE NEVER DISAPPOINTED.” — SYLVIA PLATH
Related: Having expectations and not having them live up to can bring you down in so many ways. Here’s The Key To Bliss: Let Go Of Expectations And Avoid Suffering.
What gives us the idea that the people around us are responsible for the way we feel or don’t feel? Why is it that we expect so little from ourselves and so much from others? We want our family to love and care for us; we want our friends to value and cherish us, and we want the entire world to see how incredible we really are. But all this time, have we learned to provide for ourselves all these things that we seek to get from those around us?
We expect so little from ourselves and so much from others. We constantly seek outside of us for all the things that we feel are missing from within ourselves, which is why we fail to realize the extent of how capable we are, and that we can do so much more for ourselves than the whole world can do for us.
“ALL YOU NEED IS ALREADY WITHIN YOU, ONLY YOU MUST APPROACH YOUR SELF WITH REVERENCE AND LOVE. SELF-CONDEMNATION AND SELF-DISTRUST ARE GRIEVOUS ERRORS. YOUR CONSTANT FLIGHT FROM PAIN AND SEARCH FOR PLEASURE IS A SIGN OF LOVE YOU BEAR FOR YOUR SELF, ALL I PLEAD WITH YOU IS THIS: MAKE LOVE OF YOUR SELF PERFECT. DENY YOURSELF NOTHING — GLUE YOUR SELF INFINITY AND ETERNITY AND DISCOVER THAT YOU DO NOT NEED THEM; YOU ARE BEYOND.” — NISARGADATTA MAHARAJ
After continuous years of working on myself, I got really good at handling my own darkness; I got better at facing my inner demons all by myself, without the help of other people. But I began to act differently after moving back home to finish writing my book, having to deal with so much past happenings and being in the energy of that place for such a long time. Instead of behaving like the person I had become, I started behaving more like the person that I once was. Consequently, I started expecting my family, my friends, and those close to me to lift me up whenever I was feeling down. I began to expect more from those around me than I was expecting from myself. And not before long, I lost my balance completely.
Entirely detached from the wisdom and the power of my heart and soul, that special place from which my strength, courage, and confidence organically comes from, I started filling my mind with all kinds of toxic, unhealthy, and fearful thoughts. Thoughts that were making me feel as if I was living in an extremely hostile world, a world where I was worthless and incapable – a world where I needed other people to save me since I was no longer able to save myself.
“NO ONE SAVES US BUT OURSELVES. NO ONE CAN AND NO ONE MAY. WE OURSELVES MUST WALK THE PATH.” — BUDDHA
I was in that place for only a limited time and I gradually brought myself back to the surface. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who live their entire lives in that dark and fearful place, which is a terribly sad thing. It’s unfortunate because there is immense power, so much strength and plenty of wisdom within each and every one of us, but because we believe all the lies our minds are constantly telling us, we begin to look outside of us for all the things we believe are missing from ourselves. This leaves us unable to see things clearly, and unable to recognize the truth that lies behind these lies for ourselves – that we have within us the power, the strength, the courage and the confidence to handle and deal with everything that life sends our way.