Why The Older You Get, The More You Hate People?
Now that you have come of age and lived a life of an adult, you feel you hate more people than you like. Is this something directly related to growing older? I think it is. When I was young, I could get pally with people easily. I was in the state of mind to put that extra effort to keep those people in my life.
Gradually, as I grew older most people who I considered indispensable to my existence revealed their true colors. They broke my heart, betrayed my trust and did not care to make amends. In the beginning it really felt bad to lose my so called ‘close friends’, but with time I realized I was more at ease with the feeling of having no friends at all.
As you get older, the desire to please wrong people vanishes
Why we end up with so many wrong people as our friends (at least we want to think them that way) is our desire to be the part of the ‘hot and happening’ lot, our desire to be popular. Most of us do wrong and destructive things to impress people in our bid to be friends with everyone. During the phase, we can’t even get the alarming signals that scream we are being used by toxic people.
But with age we gain maturity and develop eyes that show us the real picture. It does not feel good to please anyone by doing harmful and humiliating things for someone else’s pleasure or fun.
I simply don’t want to put up with people who have no desire to make our friendship long-lasting. If someone just wants to play foul and derive fun from it, they are most welcome to leave because I will no longer bear with their filthy behavior.
As you get older, you don’t feel the need to add new friends
Making new friends slips off your priority list as you grow up. Having a large number of friends is not at all a great idea for me. I have had the experience, and I am well aware what it is. This does not mean I have stopped socializing. It only means I don’t let people get access to my private life or trust them with my deepest secrets.
I am at an age where I don’t desire to make any friends. My family is all I have and though it may sound unfortunate, actually it isn’t. Believe it or not I feel quite good about it.
As you get older, you learn to respect yourself
The day you start valuing and caring for yourself, you stop self-ruin. Usually, people wake up when they have led an adult life for some time and learned to look through illusions.
There is an urgent call within your awakened soul to stop doing things that gratifies others, and indulge in activities that please you. You will find most friendships evaporating in no time. When you stop allowing people to use you like a doormat, they would dump you as for them you are useless. There will not be slightest inclination on your part to do wild things just to be a part of a group or ensure a place on someone’s friend list.
Instead of feeling low you want to spend time in learning and improving yourself. Ultimately, it is you who are going to be there for yourself. Friends will leave you sooner or later.
And the author is only 25 years old! Wish I had been that wise 36 years ago when I was a quarter of a century old … I could have saved myself from a lot broken heartedness. Is that a word?
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Joe Quenten Blakely does this sound familiar…haha
..slightly disagree with this….i do not feel that way , it depends!
I am so glad that I am happy with my own company and don’t feel the need for a lot of friends. I do however, like people, they are ok, they have their own lives to live and I have mine. Life hasn’t made me bitter, it has made me wiser and happier than I have ever been.
I think, a more sensitive term to use would be wary. We don’t grow old and learn nothing about people.
I think we learn to love ourselves, therefore put ourselves first and invest our energy in relationships that feel better, which is what the writer is really saying in my opinion. But I also think we just plain hate seeing thevsubconscious hurt/beliefs we carry around mirrored back to us via others! It sucks! And sometimes it really does feel like more bad/hurtful people exist than good, solid, caring, compassionate, loyal, you get it, people do. It’s cold.
Marina Argyros is this me
Laura Klovekorn I’m not going to like anyone by the end of my life according to this!!!!