The Reason Emotional Trauma Doesn’t Heal and How to Overcome It

The Reason Emotional Trauma Doesn’t Heal and How to Overcome It

Emotional Trauma: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself?  Have you ever wondered why it’s so difficult to heal emotional trauma?

Well, believe it or not, unhealed emotional trauma is usually not the result of a past event, nor another person’s abusive actions, but, rather, the result of what we do to ourselves on a daily basis.

The wrong approach 

In response to emotional trauma, it’s common to protect ourselves by shutting down and dissociating, but, over time, this can turn into chronic dissociation, which is simply a fancy way of describing self-abandonment. Whenever emotional trauma does not heal, self-abandonment is always the core wound.

Despite how it might seem or feel, no one can ever hurt us as deeply as we hurt ourselves, and, in fact, we can heal from external abuse, but we cannot heal from self-abandonment. By abandoning ourselves, we become emotionally fragmented, and once feeling “not whole,” we experience a pervasive sense that something is missing.

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Abandonment of oneself is immeasurably worse than being victimized or rejected by the entire world.

Not only is the emotional pain devastating, but self-abandonment also creates deep scars that can last a lifetime, and unlike other emotional wounds, time does not heal this wound!

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Therefore, there’s no way around it; to feel like your whole self once again, you must stop abandoning yourself now – and it’s never too late!

What does it mean to Abandon Yourself?

Here are some of the most common means of self-abandonment:

1. Holding disempowering beliefs about yourself, such as unworthiness, powerlessness and victimhood.

Also read: The Victim Identity: 4 Ways To Recover

2. Practicing chronic self-judgment, negative thinking, or suicidal ideation.

3. Hiding self-expression, denying your dreams and desires, or not speaking your truth.

4. Staying in a relationship or job past its expiration date, not trusting yourself to follow inner guidance, or practicing self-deprecation.

5. Abusing your body by ingesting toxins or not giving yourself proper nutrition, rest, movement, sleep, nurturing, etc…

6. Compromising your integrity by doing things you don’t want to do, making choices out of obligation or guilt, or putting yourself last to please others.

7. Suppressing your feelings, neglecting emotional needs, or allowing others to disrespect or abuse you.

Related: How To Deal With Feeling Unwanted, Abandoned and Unloved

Keep in mind that many of us were abandoning ourselves prior to trauma, and, in many cases, we learned it from our parents, and it’s been passed down from generation to generation. So, whether we realize it or not, trauma is often a physical manifestation of the feelings, beliefs, and behaviors we have toward ourselves.

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How to Stop Abandoning Yourself?

Since the relationship you have with yourself sets the foundation for healing, you must stop abandoning yourself in all ways, and this means that healing requires a new paradigm of self-love and self-care.

Before anything else, your number one job is to take care of you, and, no doubt, this is impossible to do while abandoning yourself. Therefore, start listening to inner guidance, drop self-judgment, and give yourself the emotional needs you desire from others, such as acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, etc…

Moreover, while releasing situations and relationships that no longer support you, speak your truth and practice self-expression, and as you carefully nurture your body, consciously choose to be here, and this means to choose life!

Since you first abandoned yourself when you disconnected from your feelings to “un-abandon” yourself, you must be willing to feel your feelings. Emotions surface to be released, but they can only be released through the process of feeling. And, last but not least, it’s essential to give up disempowering beliefs, such as unworthiness, powerlessness, and victimhood.

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