3. You decide that you will get new insights and strategies to empower you to stop the abuse. Yes, it’s still abuse!
Hijackals like to cull your from the herd–keep you away from your family and friends. Isolate you to be dependent on them for money, friends, decisions, and most importantly, for taking charge of your self-worth. If you’re with, or have been with, a Hijackal, you know that is true. It’s hard to admit, but it’s true.
Now, you have to realize that you are actually allowing this, even, enabling it. That’s a big step! Until now, the Hijackal has been “doing it to you.” Now, you have to realize that you are letting him or her continue to treat you poorly. You deserve more, even though the Hijackal continues to tell you that no one wants you, or that you’re lucky you have him or her because you’re such a mess, and worse.
Get help to see the patterns and cycles that the Hijackal has.
I’ve done my very best to make this available to you through my blogs, my YouTube channel, and my Relationship Help Show. That’s all free. You can also get my weekly newsletter, too. As you read and watch these, you’ll likely have really exciting moments of realizing that it’s not your fault. For sure, get my FREE ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, at Hijackals.com
Next, join one of my groups or talk with me privately.
All that’s been going on is Hijackal behavior, and all that you have been told is your fault, isn’t!
Nothing is more important than getting the help you need to change your life in positive ways, and to provide the best role model for your children. That’s what you CAN do! A difficult partner makes it…well…difficult, I know. It may take longer than you want it to. It will take every ounce of your courage and strength some days. But, you’re worth it!
© Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
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