Dating in the modern age has become complicated, to say the least. One moment someone is interested in you, and before you know it, they don’t seem interested anymore. People look for love by swiping right and rely on algorithms to find their soulmate. As if this was not enough, on top of that, you also have to deal with ghosting.
Ghosting is this awful thing where someone stops talking to you or ends the personal relationship they share with you, without any warning and explanation whatsoever. They completely withdraw themselves from your life, and don’t even bother to give you any reasons for doing so; it’s as if they never existed, and you never even knew them.
If you’re someone who keeps on getting ghosted, then I can understand how devastating and heartbreaking it can feel. You might think that you’re unlovable, or you’re someone who doesn’t deserve to be in a serious, committed relationship. But you need to know that’s not true. You are not unlovable, and you do deserve to have the relationship of your dreams.
7 Things To Remember When People Keep On Ghosting You
1. There’s nothing wrong with you, and you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
When someone ghosts you, it’s not a reflection of who you are, rather it shows what kind of a person they are. Being on the receiving end of ghosting can feel humiliating, I know, but remember that if anyone has to feel embarrassed, it has to be them, not you. They should have respected you enough to tell you upfront that things were not working out, instead of running away like a coward.
Not every relationship works out, but if somebody does not have the integrity and courage to let you know that they don’t see a future with you, then the problem is in them, not you. You did not deserve this treatment, and never tell yourself otherwise.
2. If they don’t treat you with respect, you’re better off without them.
The right person will never ghost you, nor will they even think of doing so. Ghosting is done by cowards who do not have the character to even let someone know that they are ending things. Why would you beat yourself up thinking about someone who didn’t even spare a second thought towards your feelings? Why would you grieve over someone who never cared about you in the first place?
If someone ghosts you, don’t see it as a loss, rather count yourself lucky that they showed their true colors before it was too late. The right person will never disrespect you like this, nor will they ever disappear on you. Don’t make yourself miserable thinking about the person who left, because they never deserved you in the first place.
3. Don’t see being single as a sad thing.
Being in a committed, stable, and happy relationship is an amazing place to be, however, it’s not the answer to everything. Just like being in a relationship can feel amazing, so can being single. Love is something that should never be forced, because why would you want to be with someone who won’t love you the way you deserve? Being single is not a bad thing, and never can be.
Being in a relationship is not going to guarantee you happiness, because it is not the only way to be happy. There are lots of other things that can bring happiness to your life, and depending on someone else for that is not one of them. Your happiness depends on you and unless you are happy by yourself, you can never be happy with someone else.