3. Spend time together.
Sometimes, we can get so caught up in our busy, everyday lives that we neglect the person most important to us. Over time, this can cause a disconnect, so it’s important to find time where you can make your partner your focus and vice versa.
Suggests Roth, “If you’ve got children when was the last time you scheduled a date night? In these pandemic times, that might not be a dinner out, but it could be planting your kids in front of Netflix for a good hour or three so the two of you can get some much-needed alone time together. Maybe it’s scheduling a regular ‘screen-free’ check-in time in the evenings just to cuddle and catch up on each other’s days. Create an intention with your sweetie and make it happen.”
In other words, plan things you can both enjoy, do them together, and get alone time. You can reignite that spark and rebuild the connection you have lost.
4. Consider the possibility of ending the relationship.
If you’ve tried to spend time together, opened up to your partner, and have communicated your needs, but nothing seems to be working, you have to face the reality that you may need to end your relationship.
“If you can’t work it out, decide if it’s time to move on. If it’s too hard to do this alone, reach out to a therapist or a couple’s therapist. It can help!” Cohen recommends.
Loneliness can have detrimental effects on your mental health, so it’s better to be single and happy than be miserable together. You may not even have to entirely break up; rather, you can just take time away from each other. Having a week or two to yourself might just help you see things differently.
If you have irreconcilable differences, it would be better to just separate amicably so that you can move on. It’s hard, but would you rather live a lie and walk on eggshells, or change to make yourself feel better as a whole even if you are alone?
According to The World Health Organization, more than 264 million people suffer from depression. Depression is often overlooked, but in reality, it is the leading cause of disability. Depression should be taken seriously.
If you or a loved one is experiencing depression, there is help. Call the 24/7 hotline from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Written By Emily Blackwood Originally Appeared In YourTango