5. Give them a choice in how they would like to help you
You can give them a choice in small tasks and ask them to choose how they would like to help you. For e.g. you can ask them, “Would you like to help me to carry my purse or get me the car keys?” or “What would you like to do when you reach home, read or sleep?”
These small decisions can imbibe the sense of empowerment and autonomy in the child’s mind and develop a sense of independence and confidence that will help them in the long run also.
6. Show don’t tell
The best way to get a child to do something is to show them instead of giving lectures or be plainly suggestive.
And for kids who are in the pre verbal stage, the best strategy to work with them is supervision, distraction and redirection.
If you find them doing something annoying, distract them and then show them what needs to be done by actually doing it yourself.
7. Use your sense of humor
It takes a lot of patience to bring up the kids in a calm and positive manner.
Use your sense of humor to lighten up the mood and stay positive during the tiring and stressful times.
8. Be empathetic when your child goes through painful emotions
A child goes through a lot of emotions like guilt or shame or anger when he is upset and feels like he could not do something well enough.
The way you respond to the child’s emotions in this tender age will set a tone for how they will learn to deal with these painful emotions as an adult.
Therefore, whenever you see your child going through painful emotions, just hold space for them. Hug them or rub their back as they cry and let them go through the entire emotion in a safe and non judgmental manner before you switch to the next activity.
In this way a child will grow up with a healthy relationship with all emotions. He will feel safe and know how to deal with these painful emotions in his adulthood instead of suppressing them or acting them out in an extreme manner.
9. Treat children with integrity and be respectful to them
Children are very intuitive and sensitive to energy. They can find out when you say something and don’t mean it. Don’t say something to the child when you don’t mean it, they will find it hard to trust you when you will actually say something that you mean.
Also make it a point to treat the child with respect and dignity. Childhood is the time when the kid develops his sense of worth and it is mostly based on the quality of love or attention that he gets from his parents.
Children who are truly loved (spent time with) unconsciously know themselves to be valued. This knowledge is worth more than gold, because they can then feel valuable, in the deepest parts of themselves. – M. Scott Peck, Road less travelled.