Use your sense of humor to lighten up the mood and stay positive during the tiring and stressful times.
8. Be empathetic when your child goes through painful emotions
A child goes through a lot of emotions like guilt or shame or anger when he is upset and feels like he could not do something well enough.
The way you respond to the child’s emotions in this tender age will set a tone for how they will learn to deal with these painful emotions as an adult.
Therefore, whenever you see your child going through painful emotions, just hold space for them. Hug them or rub their back as they cry and let them go through the entire emotion in a safe and non judgmental manner before you switch to the next activity.
In this way a child will grow up with a healthy relationship with all emotions. He will feel safe and know how to deal with these painful emotions in his adulthood instead of suppressing them or acting them out in an extreme manner.
9. Treat children with integrity and be respectful to them
Children are very intuitive and sensitive to energy. They can find out when you say something and don’t mean it. Don’t say something to the child when you don’t mean it, they will find it hard to trust you when you will actually say something that you mean.
Also make it a point to treat the child with respect and dignity. Childhood is the time when the kid develops his sense of worth and it is mostly based on the quality of love or attention that he gets from his parents.
Children who are truly loved (spent time with) unconsciously know themselves to be valued. This knowledge is worth more than gold, because they can then feel valuable, in the deepest parts of themselves. – M. Scott Peck, Road less travelled.
10. Love is the key to discipline the child
Scott Peck, American psychiatrist and bestselling author of the book “Road less traveled”, published in 1978, stated that love is the key to discipline the kid. It is even more powerful and effective than being a good role model.
If a child sees his parents day in and day out behaving with self discipline, restraint, dignity and a capacity to order their own lives, then the child will come to feel in the deepest fibers of his being that this is the way to live.
But even more important than role modeling is love. From some chaotic and disordered homes where love is present come self disciplined children. And sometimes the most strict and ordered homes of professional people, which have not love, send out children who are destructive, disorganized and undisciplined.
Good discipline requires time, simply so we can know when our disciplinary assistance is needed. Gentle urging, reprimand, structure and praise, administered with thoughtfulness and care, are only possible when the parent knows when to use them.- M.Scott Peck, Road less travelled
11. Create daily routines
Create routines for the daily events that happen over and over again, like breakfast, dinner, shopping etc.
Ask your child to follow the routine and keep on reminding them what’s next and what they are supposed to do according to the routine.
12. Be patient
Empathize that your child is learning so many things at the same time and would ask you a lot of questions and you might have to teach them some things again and again. Be patient with them because they are doing the best they can from their developmental stage.
Minimize your words and teach them by actions.
Also, don’t take your child’s behavior personally and become defensive or offensive. Be the adult in the situation and do what needs to be done without guilt or shame or anger.
13. Create a safe and healthy space for kids to develop and learn
Your attitude can provide a safe and non judgmental space for the kid to learn and develop within appropriate boundaries.
Your job as a parent is to be the coach and guide your kid and help them in their blossoming into fullest potential.
Observe your child and watch carefully where you can introduce new opportunities and activities and what your child takes keen interest in, what your child does well and where he gets stuck and needs your help, then act accordingly.