If you look up a definition for the soul mate in the dictionary, you will probably get the following:
‘A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, and spirituality.’
There are so many misconceptions about soul mates and most of them exist because we tend to idealize people and relationships, forcing ourselves to live in an imaginary world that sooner or later comes crushing down on us.
When most of us picture a soul mate couple, we tend to think of Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde, or The Beauty and The Best.
The intensity of these couples’ romances entrances us into thinking that our love story can be as magical and unique as theirs, and with that pushes us into the vicious circle of bad and failed relationships that leave us hurt and disappointed.
But while these exhilarating and often tragic love stories gave us a glimmer of hope that our own love stories could be just as enchanting, in reality, we struggle with romances that are lackluster at best and completely incompatible at worst.
So, why don’t we go for a different kind of take on the soul mate dynamics and listen to what the amazing Wayne Dyer has to say about it?
Below you can check the video of the spiritual guru Wayne Dyer’s where he gives us his hilarious perspective on soul mates.
He talks about how we all really want to meet our soul mate but that ideas that we have about what a soul mate is can lead us totally astray.
Many people believe that a soul mate is a romantic partner with whom you live happily ever after in harmonious bliss. They might show up like that, but the people who push our buttons the most are also soul mates.
In my book, a soul mate is someone who helps you evolve into your soul. When you look at soul mates like that, you can see how it broadens out the kind of relationships you have with them.
Originally appeared on Conscious Reminder