50 Things You Need To Do For A Relationship To Last

50 Things You Need To Do For A Relationship To Last

The secret to having a happy and fulfilling long-term relationship and making it last forever lies in the small things that you do for each other.

Relationships are tough. Marriage is tough. And it’s certainly not for everyone. As a lawyer, I have handled a few divorces. Thank goodness there is such an alternative for people trapped in horrible circumstances.

But if you’re inclined to weather sickness and health, richer and poorer — and even if you’ve just met the person with whom you want to be in a long-term romance — bring a short memory and a long sense of humor. You’re gonna need it.

Read on for the best relationship advice and to see how to make a relationship last.

1. Burn your blueprint.

Rid yourself of whatever fantasies you harbor about the bliss of coupled life. They’re not helping. There is no script, so don’t be disappointed when your fairytale gets hijacked.

2. Forgive.

Didn’t Jesus say something about forgiving someone not just seven times but seventy times seven? That would be 490 times….which should last you through your first 6 months. Jesus underestimated because remember, he wasn’t married.

3. And forget.

If you forgive but don’t forget, did you really forgive? I know people who claim to have forgiven but still use every available opportunity to bring it up. And if you don’t want to forgive, forgetting works just as well.

4. Be a good teammate.

Life can come at you hard. One of the nice things about marriage and relationships is being able to have someone else in the bunker when you’re getting shelled.

Related: 10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

5. Grow.

If you still have the same desires, opinions, and beliefs at age 50 that you did at age 25, that’s your own damn fault. You will not, and should not, be the same person you were then.

6. And adapt.

Even if you stagnate, the person you’re in a relationship with will change. Don’t fight it. Embrace it, learn from it, be thankful for it.

7. Find your faith.

There is great comfort in believing in something or someone beyond our crude human existence. Explore this belief. Take this journey together.

8. Travel together.

Travel forces couples to rely on one another in unpredictable ways. It will also broaden your worldview and the way you value your relationship.

9. Travel separately.

I want to go to Australia and you want to go to Maine? Cool. Take lots of pictures. See you in a week.

10. Develop your own interests.

It seems counter-intuitive, but you will enhance your relationship when you pursue your separate interests.

11. Cultivate a wide, diverse circle of friends.

One of the greatest joys of living is meeting new people. And many of the people you meet will likely make you appreciate your mate even more.

12. Don’t keep score.

I know a couple who keeps track of the number of times each partner completes a household chore. Don’t do this. It’s exhausting. And childish.

13. Exercise.

You owe it to each other to be in the best physical health possible. The mental side effects of exercise will also be beneficial.

14. Practice self-awareness.

Take frequent looks in the mirror. Reflect on who you are and the contributions you are making to your relationship. Are you being judgmental? Unfair? Harsh? Hypercritical? Defensive?

Related: How To Navigate The Stages of Love and Build A Healthy Relationship

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Tim Hoch

Tim Hoch is a Texas lawyer, husband, and dad. He likes to give advice which he often fails to heed. He cusses too much, drives too fast, and consumes too many carbs. He has 3 kids who each think they’re hilarious. He used to exercise regularly. You can find some of his occasional stories at timhoch.wordpress.com. He knows you have many distractions competing for your attention, so he thanks you for reading.View Author posts