11. Try To Understand Others
A lot of times, conflict happens when we don’t understand each other. Before you let yourself get all worked up, make sure you’re not making any assumptions.
Don’t create stories in your head without real facts to back them up. That’s why a big part of figuring out how to stand up for yourself is empathy.
I know it’s difficult but you have to be able to put yourself in other people’s situations. Make an effort to consider where they’re are coming from and clarify any miscommunication.
When in doubt, don’t be afraid to ask questions to see their point of view. Listen to what they have to say and genuinely try to understand. That way, you’ll have a complete picture of whatever the situation is. As a result, you can be more strategic with the decisions you make.
12. Start With Small Requests
Just like any skill, learning how to stand up for yourself will take time. It won’t happen overnight that’s why you have to be patient with yourself. My advice is for you to seize every opportunity to practice being assertive.
For example, let’s say you’re at a restaurant and they messed up your order. If that’s the case, politely ask to get them to remake your meal the way you want it. Let’s say you want tacos instead of sushi for dinner, then say that. If you’re at the bank waiting to speak to a teller and someone cuts in front of you, calmly tell them to go to the back of the line.
Again, this is not about you always getting your way. But if you don’t ask, then you won’t receive. Over time, you’ll develop your confidence to take even bigger risks to go for things that really matter to you.
But you have to start with making small requests first so you can practice. That way, you’ll also get some quick wins.
13. Change Your Environment
If you’re having trouble figuring out how to stand up for yourself, then you might want to re-evaluate your relationships.
Remember, you can’t change other people and that’s not your responsibility as well. There are those who are always negative, want to fight, and want to put you down. Sometimes having clear communication isn’t always possible with those individuals.
When a relationship becomes toxic, you have to recognize when it’s time to let people go. This is especially true if you’ve made multiple attempts to fix the issue. And you know what, that could mean losing friends, family members, or even a significant other. But if you don’t do it, then you risk the chance of losing the respect that you have for yourself.
At the end of the day, you never want to have to compromise on things that are important to you.
I just showed you an actionable game plan if you want to learn how to stand up for yourself. Apply these tips as much as you can if you want to develop your assertiveness.
And now, let’s turn it to you.
Which one of these tips are you going to implement first? Are you going to work on your timing or on improving your delivery?
Leave me a comment below and let me know.
Written by: Myke Macapinlac
Originally appeared in: Social Confidence Mastery