How To Stand Up For Yourself: 13 Simple Tips

How To Stand Up For Yourself Simple Tips

4. Be Courageous

The fear of rejection holds most people back from going for what they want. They have this exaggerated version of what failure looks like that cripples them from taking action.

If you want to know how to stand up for yourself without being defensive, you have to develop your courage.

You have to say what you mean and mean what you say. Remember, people can’t read your mind. If you don’t speak up, how else are they supposed to know what you’re thinking? To help you mitigate your fears, try to assess your situation more objectively. Figure out what the best and worst-case scenarios are. And then do what you can to prepare for them.

By acting in alignment with what you want, you’ll raise your self-esteem and overcome the fear of being judged inevitably.

Read: 17 Times The Women Of Game Of Thrones Showed Us What Courage Means


5. Work On Your Timing

Having a difficult conversation is not always the easiest thing to do. That’s it’s important that you work on your timing.

Before you do anything, take into consideration the other person’s situation and state of mind. Are they preoccupied with something or are they able and willing to listen to you?

Don’t get carried away by your emotions and just blurt out what you want to say on the spot. Instead, schedule time in advance to find the right moment to resolve whatever the issue is.


6. Improve Your Delivery

Effective communication is important when learning how to stand up for yourself. This is especially true if you’re not used to confronting others.

What you want to do is to brainstorm situations that you feel like you want to be more assertive. And then, get everything out of your head by writing what you want to convey.

Remember, it’s much easier to analyze your thoughts when you can see them on paper. It also keeps you on topic and prevents you from rambling on.

You can also rehearse what you want to say in front of the mirror. If you want, you can role-play with a friend as well. Just make sure the person who’s helping you out isn’t a pushover. That way, you can get the proper feedback that you need.

Remember to work on your non-verbal communication by standing up straight, taking up space, and projecting your voice.

To sound more confident, speak from your stomach, not from your throat. By practicing ahead of time, you’ll dramatically improve your delivery. As a result, you’ll be able to communicate yourself more clearly during uncomfortable situations.


7. Keep Your Cool

I don’t know about you but I don’t like being yelled at even if I’m wrong. That’s why whatever you do, always remain calm especially during a confrontation. Nothing will get resolved once you start raising your voice and using profanity.

Also, remember to use more “I” statements. That way, you don’t sound like you’re accusing whoever you’re talking to.

For example, you can say “I feel unimportant when I get interrupted when I’m saying something.” You don’t want to say “You’re making me feel unimportant whenever you interrupt me.”

Do you see how that works? It’s a subtle shift in what you say. But it can have a profound impact on whoever receives it.

Taking ownership of your thoughts and feelings will make the other person less defensive. As hard as it may be, keep your cool by taking deep breaths to relax your body. Make an effort to maintain a friendly tone when you speak as well. By doing this, you’re a lot more likely to have a productive conversation.

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Myke Macapinlac

Myke Macapinlac is the Program Director of Social Confidence Mastery. His mission is to help shy guys become socially confident so they can create the lifestyle they deserve. To get to know him personally, you can find out more about him on his website at www.socialconfidencemastery.comView Author posts