4. They try to parent you all the time.
Nagging is a form of control, so if you are married to a nagger, you will notice them trying to parent you every chance they get. They firmly believe that they know what’s good for you, even more than you do. Yes, this sounds absurd and outrageous, but that’s exactly how a nagging person thinks.
They will try to dominate you, your choices and actions, all in the name of your betterment. What starts off as concern, gradually becomes dominating and dictating what you should do and how you should do it. And God forbid you don’t do it, they will keep at you, unless you change your mind.
Let your spouse know that they are not your parents, and this constant parenting is irking you. Establish certain boundaries, and let them know what is acceptable and what isn’t.
5. They put you down every chance they get.
Sometimes their nagging reaches such a stage that they start insulting you every chance they get. Why? Simply because you are not blindly doing what they want you to do. They constantly bring up your mistakes, flaws and shortcomings, and use them against you, to push you do what they are asking you to do.
You slowly start feeling a lot of resentment and bitterness towards your spouse, and try to avoid having conversations with them. Before things get too messy, let your partner know just how much they are hurting you, and if they keep on doing this, it will be just a matter of time, before you give up on them.
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6. Your sex life has deteriorated.
Who would want to get intimate with someone who is constantly nagging them? Being a nag can be a serious threat to your sex life, and can kill the passion entirely. Instead of excitement, love and romance, there will be a lot of anger, hurt, and resentment, so naturally your sex life will take a huge hit.
If you don’t want your sex life to be over for good, then openly communicate with your partner about everything that is going wrong. Don’t hesitate to be vulnerable about your feelings, and you might just be able to make them understand that they need to stop their nagging.
7. They always speak in an accusatory tone, and use accusatory words.
You know you have a nagging spouse, when you find them always talking to you in an accusatory manner. They begin every sentence with “You…”, and go on to blame you for everything that annoys and angers them. They make things out to be always your fault, and how you can never do anything right.
If you want to put a stop to this and make things better, then you need to tell them to drop the endless accusations. Tell them that instead of saying, “You never load the dishwasher. I always have to do it, and you just don’t care!”, try saying, “I would like it if you could load the dishwasher after dinner, as I have a ton of other stuff to do.” The moment the accusations drop, so does the malice and nagging.
Being married to a nagging person can very annoying, and tiring, but does that mean you will give up on your marriage? Of course not! Being a nag doesn’t always mean being a bad person. Sit down together and calmly talk about all the issues that are plaguing your relationship, have a healthy discussion and promise each other to make positive changes.