But the pain doesn’t disappear by itself because it’s stuck energy in your system that you have to let go consciously. Otherwise, it stays there and keeps attracting similar painful moments until you choose to heal it.
4. Be like an open book
Although there are many tips on how to stay mysterious and keep the attraction – if you want to create a lasting relationship built on trust then forget this piece of advice.
Another killer of relationships is assumptions. When you don’t communicate precisely what you want, think and need, your partner will assume what it is. And that leads to misunderstandings. The same is true vice versa. If they don’t tell you exactly how things are then your mind naturally goes into some negative scenarios.
“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” – Rhachelle Nicol
Good communication is vital. Always say what you exactly want and feel. Even if you don’t know. When you feel bad without any apparent reason, instead of replying “nothing” when your partner asks how you are, say; “I feel bad, but I’m unsure why. This feeling started a couple of days ago, but it has nothing to do with us. Please, give me some time to figure it out.” This is more precise than saying just “nothing” even if you aren’t sure yourself what is going on.
5. Don’t try to own them
Your partner doesn’t belong to you. Even if you’ve been together for 30 years. No one belongs to us. The truth is that we were born alone and we’re going to leave this world alone.
Thus the only person you’ll ever be with, all the time, is you.
“In any relationship where one person depends on another to be his or her ‘parachute’ — and the other accepts this role — both will fall to the ground.” – Guy Finley
Your partner also has own hobbies and dreams. And, as well as you, they should also follow their hearts and do what they love. Any (hidden or not) control is like a poison for both of you. We all have free will, and it means that not everyone will always act as you wish. If they cross the line of your standards, then you have to think if you’re willing to continue but don’t try to imprison them before it happens. Because otherwise, they’ll run away.
6. Support them
Be the biggest cheerleader for your partner. When they’re happy, your relationship will be more at ease and mutually supportive. I don’t know anything worse than a person burying their dreams and then looking back at some point feeling depressed that they didn’t do what they wanted.
If you love your partner, then you want them to do whatever makes them happy and create a supportive environment. The bonus part is that when they work on their dreams, it’s a time for you also to do what you love.
A meaningful relationship will always enrich your life. However, things are not always going to be hunky-dory. Some days are going to be worse than the other, and some days are going to give you memories of a lifetime. As long as you understand your relationship and your partner, everything will gradually fall in to place. You will see that it was simple from the beginning itself. And in that lies the essence of a meaningful relationship.
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