7. Make sure he has good examples of women.
Show him examples of women who are beautiful because of their brains, their determination, and their integrity
The examples of traditionally beautiful women (like Daphne Blake, Princess Jasmine, and Britney Spears) will surround your son from birth. But make sure he knows about women who are beautiful from the inside out because of their brains (Madame Marie Curie), and their pen (Harper Lee), and their words (Eleanor Roosevelt), and their determination (Anne Sullivan), and their ideas (Oprah Winfrey), and their integrity (Miep Gies), and fearlessness (Ameila Earhart), and their ability to open their mouths and take a stand when everyone else is silent (Aung San Suu Kyi).
8. Be an example of a beautiful woman.
….with brains, determination, and integrity.
You already are all of those things. If you ever fear that you are somehow incapable of doing anything – remember this: If you have done any of the following:
a) grew a life
b) impossibly and inconceivably got it out of your body
c) taken care of a newborn
d) made the pain go away with a kiss
e) taught someone to read
f) taught a toddler to eat with a utensil
g) cleaned up diarrhoea without gagging
h) loved a child enough to be willing to give your life for them (regardless if they are your own) or
i) found a way to be strong when that child is suffering…
You are a superhero. Do not doubt yourself for one second. Seriously.
Related: Daughters Of Narcissist Mothers
9. Teach him to have manners.
..because it’s nice. and it will make the world a little better of a place.
10. Give him something to believe in.
..because someday he will be afraid, or nervous, or heartbroken, or lost, or just need you, and you won’t be able to be there.
Give him something to turn to when it feels like he is alone so that he knows that he will never be alone; never, never, never.
11. Teach him that there are times when you need to be gentle.
..like with babies, and flowers, and animals, and other people’s feelings.
12. Let him ruin his clothes.
Resolve to be cool about dirty and ruined clothes. You’ll be fighting a losing battle if you get upset every time he ruins another piece of clothing.
Don’t waste your energy being angry about something inevitable. Boys tend to learn by destroying, jumping, spilling, falling, and making impossible messes. Dirty, ruined clothes are just par for the course.
13. Learn how to throw a football.
..or how to use a hockey stick, or read music, or draw panda bears (or in my case: BigFoot), or the names of different train engines, or learn to speak Elvish, or recognize the difference between Gryffindor and Slytherin, or the lyrics to his favourite song. Be in his life, not as an observer but as an active participant.
14. Go outside with him.
Turn off the television, unplug the video games, put your cellphone on the charger, even put your camera away.
Just go outside and follow him around. Watch his face, explore his world, and let him ask questions. It’s like magic.
15. Let him lose.
Losing sucks. Everybody isn’t always a winner. Even if you want to say, “You’re a winner because you tried,” don’t.
He doesn’t feel like a winner, he feels sad and crappy and disappointed. And that’s a good thing, because sometimes life also sucks, no matter how hard (as moms) we try to make it not suck for our kids.
These parenting tips for your sons will do him good later when he loses again (and again, and again, and again, and again…..) Instead, make sure he understands that – sometimes you win – sometimes you lose. But that doesn’t mean you ever give up.
16. Give him opportunities to help others.
There is a big difference in giving someone the opportunity to help and forcing someone to help. Giving the opportunity lights a flame in the heart and once the help is done the flame shines brighter and asks for more opportunities.
Be an example of helping others in your own actions and the way your family helps each other and helps others together.