I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard people say \u201cthis diet didn\u2019t work\u201d or \u201cthat diet didn\u2019t work\u201d etc \u2026and then they give up and stop trying any more diets because they\u2019ve had no luck with them. Have you ever wondered why these diets didn\u2019t work for them? Read on because the answer is critical if you want to know how to make someone fall in love with you (or keep them in love if you're already in a relationship).\r\n\r\nThe reality is that pretty much every diet works if it is followed correctly. The weak point is not in the diet itself, but rather in the person using the diet. If the person doesn\u2019t have the drive, ambition or motivation to follow the diets guidelines but is simply looking for a \u201cquick fix\u201d, then no diet is going to work for them.\r\n\r\nThe same analogy goes with relationship self-help books. The advice in most relationship self-help books (at least those written by trained professionals) contains advice that does work. Yes, they can and do solve problems in relationships ...and often quite well. The weak point is the person reading and trying to follow what\u2019s written in it.\r\n\r\nIn this article I want to go through 5 ways how the person reading the self-help book is more often than not the cause of that book not working for them \u2026rather than the book itself being the problem.\r\n3\u00a0Reasons Relationship Self-Help Books Might Not Work For You\r\n1. Preference For Distractions:\r\nWhen people are suffering any type of emotional pain, whether its relationship pain or not, there is a tendency to want to look for ways of avoiding that emotional pain \u2026rather than dealing with it. They are subconsciously drawn to distractions such as work, friends, alcohol, other potential partners, even drugs etc. So while a person might have good intentions when they get a relationship self-help book, very often the subconscious preference for distractions pulls the person away and the book gets put in the bin.\r\n\r\n \r\n2. Lack Of Courage:\r\nTo face problems in life, especially relationship ones which can be quiet serious and difficult to deal with, you need courage. Most people don\u2019t have this courage however. This is most often seen on the dating seen when you want to make someone like you ...but don't have the courage to approach them. Relationship books will inevitably require some type of outwardly action in order to achieve the desired results. If you don\u2019t have the courage to carry out those actions, then the words on the page remain simply words on the page. If a relationship self-help book tells you to try something, you should try and have the courage to at least TRY that action \u2026whether you think you can successfully achieve that action or not. Very often you will learn something important from even a failed attempt at an important action.\r\n\r\n \r\n3. Not Suitable For Everyone:\r\nWhile most people like Facebook, the reality is that a lot of other people despise it. They find it too intrusive on their personal life, they don\u2019t like the way people put up a fake image of what their life is like and so on and so forth etc. The same goes with any relationship self-help book. Even if 80% of people like a certain relationship book that means 20% don\u2019t like it. So even if a particular relationship book you get is liked by lots of people, it may be that that one is not suitable for you \u2026but instead you might find a different one more helpful. The only problem is if you have a bad experience with your first relationship book, you might not be too keen to buy another one.\r\nOther Reasons Relationship Books Fail\r\nOther reasons why relationship self-help books fail include:\r\n\r\n \tThe problem is with the other person in the relationship and not you\r\n \tThe relationship was too damaged before you sought help\r\n \tThe author wasn\u2019t qualified and so the advice was bad\r\n\r\nThese reasons however are outside your control. And that\u2019s ok. The 3 reasons covered in this article are things you can actively work on the next time you get a relationship self-help book. By ridding yourself of these 3 reasons why relationship self-help books fail \u2026you can at least increase your chances at coming closer to the desired result you are looking for in your relationship.\r\nYours Appreciatively,\r\n\r\n\r\nJohn Alex Clark - Relationship & Life Coach\r\nFor more information on relationship advice, check out John Alex Clarks website "RelationshipPsychology.com".