5 Underlying Reasons Why Players Are Mentally Unstable People To Date

Have you ever dated a player in your past, and have ended up heartbroken? Did you know that players are somewhat mentally unstable? 

Typically a player often appears to be quite a confident individual. The way they talk, the way they dress, and the way they carry themselves. It all looks very convincing – doesn’t it? But if you want to make a player fall in love with you, there’s something you need to consider. And here it is –

Even though these types of people are usually seen as balanced and popular…it is a whole different story on the inside.

Jed Diamond – psychologist and author of The Irritable Male – states that even though players seem confident in themselves they at the end of the day “very insecure” about their personal lovability. The reality is that underneath the surface, these players have wounds, issues, and are emotional. These emotional imbalances are the problems that make them players.

5 Reasons Why Players Are Mentally Unstable People To Date

1. A Poor Upbringing:

Psychotherapist Jed Diamond says players typically grow up in single-parent homes where the father is absent. This has the subconscious effect of making them feel insecure about themselves and their acceptability. Sleeping with lots of different women to feel loved then becomes a mechanism or way to compensate.

Likewise, if a child does have both parents but they show little affection to him or each other, the result can be the same. Even though a woman might be a good catch, she is in the end just ONE woman to a guy who has been emotionally damaged like this which can make him go and look for more sources of affection.

Want to know more about how someone’s childhood can determine the nature of their love life? Read How Childhood Trauma Is Screwing Up Your Relationships

2. Need for Approval:

It is widely believed by psychologists that when people pay extra attention to their looks, it is because they are trying to compensate for other problems. The more a person takes care of their looks, embeds themselves in their career or tries to make as much money as they can …there is very often an underlying problem they are trying to compensate for. Many entrepreneurs have background stories of growing up poor. This is very often the driving force that makes them want to compensate for and become rich one day.

Players are no exception: they spend more time on their hair, clothes, and even the cars they drive than other men. These habits are telling of hidden insecurities and a longing for approval. Unfortunately, these types of people feel that no matter the amount, it is never enough. They will keep wanting more and will go from person to person to get it.

The underlying problem feeds a desire to constantly seek out new means of compensation. This is yet another sign he is not the one.

3. Stuck in Stasis:

Most people have or will, at one time or another, have their heartbroken. It is a painful experience but eventually, most people get over it. So, what happens to those that don’t? The reality is that some inadvertently become players.

Many players have not worked through the feelings of heartbreak and so become stuck in stasis. They are so damaged by a past relationship that they are unable to connect emotionally with another woman and are unable to reciprocate love and affection.

Each time he becomes close with a woman and things become serious, he must leave or risk being hurt again. If this rings a bell in your situation, it might be better for you to fall out of love with him and leave …before he falls out of love with you and leaves you broken-hearted.

Want to know more about why some people leave you abruptly? Read 8 Reasons Why People Ghost Out Of A Relationship